The broken pieces of my heart came out with my tears at the thought of you… Bonnie Hutchins

This article was inspired by my daughter Bonnie, whose idea was for me to write about sibling complaints. Instead, I decided to interview her and here I share her candid and inspiring answers about what it means for her to lose a sibling. She describes herself as one of the forgotten bereaved.

Bonnie, can you briefly tell me about the circumstances surrounding the loss of your brother?

I received a phone call early one Saturday morning telling me that Stuart had been in a car accident. My first reaction was to worry, but I remember thinking, “Worst case scenario, he’ll have broken his leg.”

I met my family at the hospital and saw Stuart, I knew at that moment that he was going to die. Since then I have focused all my energy on taking care of Stuart and doing what is best for him. 5 days later we turned off his life support.

How did that loss impact your life?

It changed a lot in my way of seeing things. I found it much more difficult to be empathetic or understanding about what felt like trivial concerns. Compared to the loss of Stuart, everyone else’s problems seemed trivial. Over time, I have become more understanding of grievance, people’s own grief at loss, and how I deal with certain issues. Before Stuart died, I didn’t have confidence in my abilities to be a strong and confident person. Losing him made me realize that if I can deal with it, I can deal with anything.

What was most helpful or comforting to you during that initial time of grievance?

For me, I focused on other things. I had a young daughter who really struggled to deal with my complaint. Instead, I found that life moved on without really allowing me to grieve. I found that practical things helped the most. I saved and posted many photos of him talking to friends and even ordered his medical records to be reviewed. This wouldn’t help everyone, but it helped me know that my decision to fight to get Stuart’s life support turned off was the right one. Was. Even now, 4 years later, I know deep down that my grief was not the most productive and I often feel the need to cry. The time will come, because now I feel happy to have grieved as I could, and the best I could at that time.

What did you find the least helpful or caused you the most concern or distress?

After a while, certain things increased my sadness. Milestones, watching other little siblings grow up, and even simple TV shows I didn’t get to watch. They are all things that I have learned to adapt to. A lot of my grieving is in private, so at times I felt bombarded with everything. People asking how I was? Or actually completely forgetting about it and just asking how mom and dad were doing. As a brother, sometimes you forget about everything.

Was there any aspect of the duel that you found particularly difficult?

I was very guilty. As a brother, very often love is not expressed. I felt tremendously guilty for how I had treated my little brother. I made fun of him growing up and felt very guilty about it. Also guilty that I didn’t call him enough, see him enough, or support him enough. All of which I now see as completely normal. When a brother dies, you automatically feel that he didn’t see him enough, that you didn’t talk to him enough, or maybe you treated him badly. You didn’t. You just had a normal sibling relationship, only now, you’ve been cursed in retrospect. That’s another reason why I tell my loved ones that I love them almost every time I think about it. I don’t want to get that “should have” feeling again.

Mourning is acceptance. A lot of it is accepting the sibling relationship you had for what it was and knowing that you loved them and, even if it wasn’t said, they loved you back. Once I really accepted that our relationship was what it was and we did the best we could at the time, and once I accepted that Stuart knew I loved him (something I feel like all brothers know), I was on my way to being content again.

Do you feel that the loss of your brother has changed you or how you see life, if so in what way?

Yes a lot like that. I view the loss of my brother and the grief that accompanies it as a kind of disease, like diabetes. It can be treated, but it is not curable. Grief and loss are always with you, but you find ways to “deal” with it. Losing my brother is a big part of who I am and how I got to where I am. I love the people I love more, and I make sure to tell them more. I appreciate the simple joys in life, whereas before he died, I know he took them for granted. Now I have a deep understanding of my own strength and the strength of our family. Going through the loss of someone so special changes you, and for a family to overcome and survive the loss, makes them closer. He did it for us anyway.

What do you think has helped you the most in your overall complaint?

Support and understanding: I remember feeling sorry for my friends and family because they just had no idea how to help or what to say. Then there were the people who didn’t say anything. If I cried, they just hugged me. If I needed to talk, they just listened. A grieving person doesn’t need much, just to know that they are not alone. I got a lot out of it and it helped me the most.

I also found my own way to honor him. I got his name tattooed on my wrist, I have a special Christmas ornament to wear every year, so he’s with us. And I make sure my daughters get to know him and recognize his continued importance in my life and theirs.

What would you say to another person dealing with the loss of a brother or sister?

Hurt as you can. If you don’t feel ready to cry but want to scream, that’s okay.

Talk to your other brother if you have one. They understand.

Don’t be forgotten. If you need help or need a hug, you still have your parents and you are still their child. Tell them.

Do special things. Write down your favorite memories. Post photos. Plant a tree. Get a memorial tattoo. Anything that makes you feel like they’re close to you…they are.

Can losing weight really be painless?

We all know the keys to losing weight, which basically consist of eating healthier and less junk food and doing more physical activity.

This all sounds simple enough, but in the real world and the fast pace we live in, finding the right diet and sticking to it is anything but simple.

So how do successful weight losers do it?

Here are 3 easy ways to lose that extra weight

1. Do not eat less

Well, I’m sure this is good news for many of you.

The reason behind this is that you need to eat more healthy foods and at least three nutritious meals a day.

The catch, however, is that you should cut out all junk food, as well as anything that contains sugar, so be careful with so-called fat-free products that are often high in sugar.

This is very important as it is these types of foods that are addictive, provide little nutritional value, and cause obesity and other health problems such as diabetes.

2. Kill two birds with one stone

We all love to watch TV in the evenings and we all love to snack while watching our favorite shows.

We also know that this deadly combination of eating sweets and greasy foods is particularly bad to put into our system before bed.

So instead of snacking, it would be really beneficial for your weight loss plan, as well as your overall health, to exercise while watching TV.

A great way to achieve this is to sit on a stationary bike and spin to your favorite program or just sit on a Swiss ball which will work out your abdominal muscles.

So doing anything, even dumbbell curls, would be better than doing nothing and eating something in front of the TV; your waistline will thank you.

3. Choose high-fiber foods

Fiber is not only good for your gut, but it will also help you lose weight.

Simple carbohydrates and refined foods, aka junk food, fall into the low-fiber category, which means that once eaten, they quickly pass through your system without being properly processed and end up as fat.

On the other hand, high-fiber foods not only keep you fuller for longer, but are also harder to digest (in a good way) with the consequence that they digest properly and don’t contribute to fat.

Therefore, eating more high-fiber foods can help you achieve a slimmer figure, while refined sugar from foods 7 will contribute to weight gain.

Conclusion…

The foods you eat and the diet you follow are key to the shape you will have and the way you look.

So if you’re struggling to lose weight or are worried about becoming obese, you may want to consider the Paleo diet (the most Googled diet of 2013) as it has been shown to significantly contribute to weight loss, as well as better health and vitality.

Also, with the Paleo Diet you will enjoy real benefits in a short space of time, especially when you lose a lot of weight and fat around your waist.

However, not only should you experience significant weight loss, but you’ll also feel healthier and your body will thank you for feeding it the right things.

Going back to the topic of weight loss, your body will function optimally on the Paleo diet and you won’t have any cravings either.

As a result, you’ll metabolize food faster and function more efficiently, which means your body will naturally move toward your ideal weight when fueled with the right foods.

Myths about Atlantis continue to be created, and I know that in my lifetime, like string theory, evidence of the truth behind the myths will be discovered.

Two recent BBC shows claim that the story of Atlantis stems from a major natural disaster in the Aegean that tore apart the islands of Thera and Crete in 1620 BC. I have no doubt that these catastrophic events happened, but I believe that the original story of Atlantis happened much earlier, 12,000 years or more before, and in a very different way.

Because this point in time on Earth parallels what happened in Atlantis, many of the people who lived then are incarnated now as part of their completion and you are likely among them, with your memories and possibly the karma of those great events. I was there too, many times, and this is what I remember from the last few days:

Atlantis was a great land located in the middle of what is now the Atlantic and it was very beautiful. It was abundant with riches of wildlife and culture, also wealth through trade. It was also the spiritual center of the world: the ancient wisdoms were known and practiced as the heart of civilization; great spiritual teachers were revered and sought after for their gifts; and priests and priestesses of the highest caliber served in temples of extraordinary high interdimensional frequencies, conduits between the people and the divine working magically to heal and transform to reach heaven on Earth.

Each temple had its own purpose and was designed to help achieve this through the use of colour, for example, shape and material. The Great Temple, the Temple of Light, was a portal to other planes and an entry point for beings of the highest light. It was the place where time did not exist and due to the strength of the frequencies only people of the clearest resonance could be there, and those who were allowed to be there were present only in their monadic being, nothing of matter could be there. As such, the temple was created from a living clear crystal and at its center was a large blue quartz crystal, a transmitter with powers that even now I cannot specify.

In its spiritual heyday, Atlantis was a place of bliss, but times change and nothing stays the same forever on Earth. Atlantis was spiritual sublimity, but, as in all those times, the swing of the pendulum changed as a result of Man’s choices.

The great continent was not only a spiritual and cultural center, but also a technological one, and amazing experiments and discoveries were carried out that have never been surpassed. The combination of spiritual wisdom, magic and science produced unimaginable wonders, and the fusion of these gifts of service worked in perfect harmony while following the imperatives of the ancient Laws based on altruism, simplicity and good intentions under the aegis of God.

Over time, certain men and women in all walks of life began to see the opportunity for personal advancement, bringing with it wealth and power. Using the sophisticated tools and knowledge they had, they realized that pure gold could be made from base metal; experimentation on humans and animals could produce hybrids that could be controlled and enslaved; psychic communications could foresee the future and influence the present; light could be used to create what was dark. The Atlanteans began to fall into material temptation and the fight between the vibrations of the highest and the lowest began.

Some of the priests and priestesses succumbed, others saw what was happening and resisted, but more and more people were drawn to the lure of possession, and they wanted more. The lands and the world of nature, hitherto so honored, were carelessly plundered as science and technology became preeminent for what they could offer. The spirit was forgotten or abused. Gaia watched and waited.

The dark masters of Atlantis had learned to control souls. His intention was to go further and control the monads, control the Spirit. It had never been done before. Each monad is a spark of God and as such is pure Spirit, incorruptible and comprising pure light. Souls, on the contrary, are the bridge between humanity and Spirit, a reflection of man’s path and man’s experiences, a mixture of light and darkness. For many Atlanteans, lured by the promise of wealth and power, the sacrifice of their soul on the altar of materialism was a price worth paying, and they ignored the long-term repercussions for themselves and their world.

The dark masters had their plan, a reverse reflection of God’s Plan, and it centered on the intent to control humanity through the drug of matter, and through this, using powers of great magic they had acquired through Atlantean spiritual experience, to exploit and then destroy divinity where it might be found. In this, they underestimated the determination of the Masters of Light, the Light and the Love of God, that the Spirit on Earth would not be destroyed.

A battle began between the scientists and technologists on the one hand, and the spiritual community on the other. You could call it the battle between the mind and the heart. There was intense pressure to bleed Atlantis and beyond of her lifeblood to fuel the demand for riches, but many resisted. Gaia herself, violated and despised for years, protested through sporadic earthquakes, floods, volcanic eruptions, and tsunamis. However, the tide of greed continued to swell, as did the insatiable desire for power.

The Temple of Light remained as it had always been, a sacred place of extraordinary interdimensional spirituality. The High Priestess and some of her acolytes knew what was occurring beyond that and recognized the challenges of the Master Plan, but they also saw that the experience was humanity’s ultimate choice and should be accepted as such without judgment. What to do about it was her personal and spiritual challenge. The dark masters also saw that as long as the Temple of Light survived and its flame of service burned, they could not achieve their goal of spiritual and world domination. The Temple and its servants had to be destroyed. The Temple was the key. In order to control the Spirit, the dark masters of Atlantis had to destroy the great Temple of Light that contained the cosmic secrets they sought.

They had in their power several lesser priests and priestesses whom they had corrupted both sexually and with the promise of riches; their minds had been changed and all sense of moral integrity had been stripped away. They waited within the sacred fortress of the Temple for the signal to administer drugs to the High Priestess and her loyal acolytes that would leave them paralyzed and blinded, unable to escape but locked in their bodies. The drugs would shut down all the chakras, severing all psychic and spiritual links, and would act as a truth drug.

Meanwhile, skilled Atlantean technologists and black magicians, hungry for fame and progress, had studied the workings of nature with the intention of controlling it, and they thought they had succeeded. The plan was for them to harness Earth’s energies and create an earthquake that would locate immediately below the Temple of Light destroying it but leaving the rest of the continent unscathed. It was risky but they were confident that they would succeed, because they believed that nothing could improve their scientific and magical knowledge.

Within the Temple, the High Priestess, herself a Master of Light, was in constant communication with the Source through the powerful quartz crystal that was the centerpiece of the crystal structure, and through meditation and ancient ritual. She knew of the Dark Plan before it was devised. It would have been easy for her and her friends to leave the place using the portal inside the crystal, but by leaving the Temple in this way, she risked violating cosmic secrets and the likelihood that Atlantis would become a potent center of darkness that could take over the world and destroy God’s Plan. She had to be there until the end.

On the last day of Atlantis the plan was in place, timed to begin exactly according to the perfect astrological profile for battle and success, but success for whom? The rogue priests, following instructions, poured poison into the altar cups of those they wanted to destroy, but their targets had been prepared through prayer, healing and cleansing, and the use of natural antidotes given to them by herbal experts, and the poison had no effect. When the men arrived to capture them for torture and brainwashing, they were met with the sight of a ring of priestesses ritually moving around a large fire that burned within the Blue Crystal. They were filled with unearthly light and strange music that seemed to come out of nowhere, while mythical creatures of magnificence accompanied them. The men were filled with fear and fled.

Deep in the Earth, below, the elementals that had been enslaved waited, but all too aware of the rituals unfolding in the Temple above them. The signal came for the earthquake to begin, and as it did, a bolt of energy, like lightning, pierced through the layers of crystal and released the spirits of the earth to do God’s bidding. They created an earthquake, but instead of simply destroying the Temple above it, it spread underground until it reached the place of capitalism, the home of the dark masters, and explosively erupted there before spreading further. Tidal waves of enormous proportions were created and dormant volcanoes sprang to life, and Atlantis began to break apart and submerge.

The Temple of Light stood, all the sacred wisdoms contained within the crystalline structures and the priestesses waiting, knowing it was their task to destroy the place they loved, and themselves, for the sake of the spiritual future of the planet. As Atlantis stirred and burned below them, they took the Temple’s secrets to keep until it was time to release them to the world again. The High Priestess, surrounded by those who remained, took the Sacred Rod of Initiation and invoked the power of God as she drew sacred symbols on the Blue Crystal and the others chanted mantras of great power.

With a crash of thunder and a burst of light, the Blue Crystal shattered, and the force of the event caused the Temple to shake and sheets of heavy glass began to rain down on those who stood there. Most were killed immediately, but the High Priestess continued to stand in the center of the Crystal, newly exposed, speaking in a strange language as she did the Spirit’s bidding using a form of magic never seen before, working with stars and moons and nature, with beings from other planets to ensure the mission was completed.

The Temple shattered around them and Atlantis disappeared beneath the waves. Some of the people who survived, fleeing in ships to other lands at night, spoke of seeing a column of light coming over the broken Temple, and that, when the light rose, the Temple could not be seen. The mission was complete.

Knowing how to grow your eyelashes is something of a science. The reason I’m saying this is because it’s important to first know what eyelashes are made of and what they need to help them grow. Let’s take a quick look at what tabs are. Then we can really understand the 3 easy steps to help eyelashes grow longer.

What are the tabs made of? Eyelashes are made up of 91% protein called keratin. Keratin protein is the basic building block that also makes up our skin and nails. Our hair, skin, and nails are made from the same basic ingredient. So what is good for our skin is also good for our eyelashes. With that in mind, let’s move on to the 3 easy steps to growing your eyelashes.

Step 1. Start with quality skin enhancers. Collagen is a great example. This protein provides structure to our skin. It is widely used to maintain skin elasticity and reduce wrinkles. Anyway, collagen provides structure to our hair giving it elasticity and strength. It can be applied topically to the eyelashes as a skin cream. Or you can take vitamin C which helps build collagen in the body and also stimulates eyelash growth.

Vitamin A is a powerful antioxidant that delays the signs of aging on our skin. It is the active ingredient in the form of ‘tretinoin’ in high-end anti-wrinkle creams. This vitamin stimulates eyelash growth in two ways: it activates the growth of new cells and helps form keratin protein. If you want to grow your eyelashes, vitamin A is your ticket. It is abundant in apricots, pumpkins, peaches, red peppers, etc.

Step 2. Improve your daily diet. You don’t have to “change” your entire diet. All you have to do is add a few things that will help your eyelashes grow longer, thicker and healthier. Omega-3 and Omega-6 fatty acids are extremely beneficial for growing eyelashes. Our bodies don’t make them, so you’ll need sources like salmon, almonds, and whole grains. Take vitamin C and B complex to improve circulation. Magnesium and calcium also help promote eyelash growth. This would be found in dairy, meats, avocados, and bananas.

Step 3. Avoid damaging your eyelashes. Going to bed without removing your mascara can cause eyelashes to fall out. Excessive eye rubbing is the most common way to damage eyelashes. Excess washing of the eyelashes makes them dry and brittle. If you need to remove your mascara, use a gentle makeup remover. Olive oil mixed with water in equal parts works as an effective eye makeup remover. Be kind to your lashes, treat them well, and provide them with nutrients. This is how to grow eyelashes in 3 easy steps.

Free report:

Are there toxins in your environment?

Environmental toxins are poisonous, cancer-causing, man-made, naturally occurring chemicals that can harm us and have an unfavorable impact on the performance of the human immune system. Exposure can affect us at home, at work, at school, and in places we least expect.

Our body naturally produces different toxic waste through our metabolic process. We are created in such a way that the organs of the body are in charge of the waste process of the toxic activity. Our daily activities make us come into contact with toxins from our environment.

Nearly 6,000 new chemicals are indexed every week in the Chemical Society’s database, which amounts to more than 300,000 new chemicals a year.

The foods we consume on a daily basis are made up of toxins of all kinds, from colourings, preservatives, flavorings, emulsifiers, humectants and antimicrobials.

Toxins are known to poison enzymes and destroy structural minerals in the body, weakening bones and damaging vital organs like the kidneys and liver. Below is a list of environmental toxin compounds found all around us.

Benzopyrenes (food, fuel exhaust emissions, grilled foods)
Auto exhaust (carbon monoxide, formaldehyde, benzene)
Lead (found in paint, water, old pipes, old houses, and soil)
Cigarette smoke (benzene, lead, arsenic, acetone)
EMF’s: electromagnetic fields that damage nerve cells (cell phones, computers and television screens)
Formaldehyde (preservatives, used in toners, paints, and building materials for computers and copiers)
Excitotoxins (common in food additives, noodles, monosodium glutamate, frozen foods, saccharin.
Aluminum (antiperspirants, skin creams, anti-dandruff shampoo, antacids, and some pots)
Mercury: Heavy metals, marine fish such as king mackerel and swordfish, crops exposed to pesticides, garbage incinerators, and some vaccines.
Volatile organic compounds (adhesives, thinners,
Acetaminophen (non-aspirin pain reliever)
Pesticides and herbicides used on growing crops
Cadmium (used to make batteries, insecticides, and plastics)
Alcohol
Household cleaners (acetones and benzenes)
Nitrosamines (smoked and treated foods, hot dogs, corn beef, etc.)
Aromatic hydrocarbons (fuels, solvents)
PFCs: perfluorinated chemicals (non-stick cookware, non-staining carpets)
Carcinogens (chemicals used in asbestos, vinyl chloride for plastics)
Acetone (car exhaust and industrial emissions)
Radiation (microwaves, X-rays, ultraviolet radiation from the sun
Perchloroethane (used as a solvent in dry cleaning)
Used chlorine and chloroform in swimming pools and released from a hot shower.
Aflatoxins (from rotten and dirty nuts)
Exposure to dangerous environmental toxins like lead, mercury, and pesticides can negatively affect:

Development
Learning
Behavior
Protect yourself and your family from environmental toxins with the following tips:

Reduce the use of plastic containers that are recycled.
Avoid nail polish, perfumes, colognes, and other scented products that include phthalates as active compounds.
Do not microwave plastic food containers.
Use glass bottles for your baby.
Limit consumption of canned foods.
Trim the ends of vegetables like lettuce and cabbage before eating.
Buy vegetables from a trusted source.
Peel and cook the vegetables.
Eating a wide range of vegetables limits exposure to a particular type of pesticide.

An awareness of what is beneficial to you is just what you need to stay healthy. Health care is not cheap, so it is appropriate to find all the information we can to keep ourselves and our household members safe. I hope you find this article beneficial.

Although often considered just a divination device, Tarot cards are actually part of a much larger, centuries-old spiritual movement dedicated to discovering the Higher Self. This movement, called the Western Mystery Tradition, embraces and explores the many deep spiritual paths that lie outside of established Western religious institutions; the treasure sought is an ever deeper insight into our own humanity and relationship with the Divine, achieved through the process of understanding and transforming ourselves. Because of this approach, the Western Mystery Tradition is inclusive, rather than exclusive; he sees all religious systems, including the Tarot, as symbols and metaphors for the same Truth. His wisdom is taught primarily through books and private meditation, and in small mystery schools around the world.

As with most esoteric spiritual systems, the goal of the Western Mystery Tradition is to take us to higher levels of consciousness, culminating in awakening or enlightenment or, to use the Western Mystery Tradition term, “Initiation.” The Tarot, therefore, as part of the Western Mystery Tradition, is more than a divination device: it is a legitimate spiritual path to Initiation.

The early history of Tarot cards is not well documented, which has given rise to many interesting but erroneous Tarot myths. One of those myths states that the deck was created by a group of followers who met periodically in some undisclosed place to discuss philosophy, magic, natural sciences, etc. Hindered by the lack of a common language, they created the Tarot deck to serve as a means of communication. Other myths place the origin of the letters in Egypt, India, China, Morocco or Mount Sinai. The word “Tarot” is believed to be Egyptian, Latin, Greek, Hebrew, or best of all, a mysterious anagram whose meaning has yet to be discovered.

The unromantic truth is that Tarot probably began as a simple card game played in northern Italy in the early 15th century. The oldest surviving Tarot cards are lavishly hand-painted decks employing familiar imagery from medieval and Renaissance European court life: kings, knights, fools, jugglers, etc. The word “Tarot” probably comes from the Italian Carte da Trionfi (Triumph Cards), later called Tarocchi. The German form of the word is Tarock and the French form is Tarot.

The role of the Tarot in spirituality began in the 18th century, when the Comte de Mellet linked the 22 Major Arcana of the Tarot cards with the 22 letters of the Hebrew alphabet. Hebrew letters play an important role in the ancient Jewish mystical system called Kabbalah, which uses the Tree of Life as its main symbol. The Tree of Life is a metaphorical diagram that maps everything from the maturation of the self, our journeys from birth to death, and our souls’ progress toward Godhood. The Tree of Life has been studied for centuries; the oldest known reference is in the Sefer Yetzirah, an ancient Kabbalistic text that may be nearly two thousand years old.

This connection between the Tarot, the Hebrew letters and the Tree of Life was pursued by other mystery scholars such as Eliphas Lévi in ​​the 19th century. In 1909, Arthur Edward Waite and Pamela Coleman-Smith, both members of the Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn and practicing Kabbalists, published the now classic Rider-Waite Tarot deck, which remains the most popular Tarot deck in the world. Eventually, each Tarot card in the deck was assigned a place on the Tree of Life.

As a result of classical education, research, study, and the devotion of esoteric scholars such as Levi, Waite, and Coleman-Smith, the Tarot deck evolved from a simple toy to a highly condensed symbolic learning device. Synthesizing a variety of traditions such as Kabbalah, astrology, alchemy, and mythology, the Tarot images express spiritual truths that underlie much of Western culture. These spiritual truths, expressed through iconic images and symbols, help build bridges between our conscious, subconscious, and higher selves. The secret to the Tarot’s enduring popularity over the past few centuries is the way in which these simple archetypal images communicate deep truths and meanings to all aspects of the self so directly.

The Tarot spiritual path involves taking steps to incorporate the deeply felt meaning of each card into our everyday lives. Reading books about the cards is a good first step to understanding these meanings more consciously. You can also select a card to be your companion for a week and take it with you as you go about your daily routine. Meditating on images is also important. If this card could talk, what would it tell you? What aspect of yourself is reflected in the image? What events in your daily life could be understood differently with the card’s message in mind? It’s a good idea to keep a journal of your thoughts, insights, and personal issues as they arise throughout the week.

In addition to studying the cards themselves, understanding the sequence of the cards teaches us a lot about the joys and sorrows of the spiritual path. For example, the Major Arcana chart a path beginning with The Fool, which represents the beginning of the Divine’s descent into physical reality. The following cards teach us about the process by which man creates his world. Surprisingly, The Devil is the beginning of the path to Initiation, because he helps us to see through the mask that the physical world wears. Next up is The Tower, which graphically demonstrates the pain and fear we experience when relinquishing strongly held opinions and worldviews. The cards that follow symbolize later stages on the path to full enlightenment or Initiation, symbolized by The World.

The Tarot Court Cards represent aspects of our own personality that help and hinder us in our ways. The Minor Arcana represent aspects of the Tree of Life, oscillating between positive and negative, masculine and feminine.

The depth and relevance of the wisdom and personal insights available through the Tarot are astounding. Once the symbolic bridge has been built, these cards really seem to speak to us; the more we study them, the more they reveal. Because the hidden symbols in these cards are derived from the history, myths, meaning, and structure of Western culture, the Tarot is a powerful and appropriate practice for anyone on a Western spiritual path.

In Mentoring Myths, the difference between coaching and mentoring was discussed and many of the assumptions made about mentoring and mentoring relationships were examined. .

But how do you build an effective mentoring relationship? Mentoring is all about sharing knowledge and experience with an individual and, in this case, helping them enhance career success. Mentoring develops communication skills for the mentor, as well as providing an experience that organizations see positively for their own professional development.

Brown University asked many professional experts in a mentoring consortium “what makes a good mentor?” and this was an answer:

“Mostly, it’s a person who is willing to share themselves. Most people don’t mentor because they don’t put in the time, they don’t remember what it’s like to be in vulnerable positions, just starting out as a student or as a teacher or in some other endeavour. You don’t learn the ropes anywhere except in a mentoring situation. Mentors are role models, not necessarily in a family relationship. It’s someone you can look up to in a field you want to model yourself. A good mentor is a person who lives an exemplary life. Sometimes you can be a mentor and not even know it.” – George Odell, professor of archaeology, University of Tulsa.

When starting a formal or informal mentoring relationship, there are many factors in making it effective and successful. We’ll explore a few here:

1. The person being mentored must own the mentoring relationship. The responsibility for setting appointments, following up, and developing a strategy does not rest with the mentor. The apprentice will reap the main rewards of the relationship and must be controlled primarily by them. Trainees should have an agenda, questions, or objectives for each session.

2. Mentors should help mentees define their greatest strengths. There should be a real examination of what the individual does best and what his “bliss” is. In the Marcus Buckingham book series beginning with First, break all the rules! . A mentor’s responsibility is to help the individual seek new paths and new ideas, possibly even a different career path than what they expected.

3. Mentors should help the individual find ways to develop new skills. Whether it’s public speaking, communication, or leadership development, the mentor helps identify resources like programs or workshops. The apprentice asks the questions and the mentor aid find the answers.

4. Mentors help mentees build relationships. Because the mentor is more experienced, they have key contacts and subject matter experts in their network that the mentee is unlikely to have. The mentor graciously shares her network, makes introductions, and guides the individual in developing and maintaining these new relationships. .

5. Mentors help the individual find new roles, assignments, or projects that are aligned with career goals. This is most effective in mentoring relationships where you both work within the same organization, but not necessarily. An example might be an accountant who really wants to get involved in the sustainability movement. The mentor (who was sought for this purpose) knows of projects that he can present to the mentee or of positions in other organizations.

6. Mentors and mentees treat the relationship with respect and confidentiality. This means that appointments are made and honored the same as other business appointments and information is not shared unless requested by the trainee. A mentor’s time is valuable, but so is the individual being mentored. You must take great care of the relationship.

7. Mentors and the person being coached can give honest feedback. The mentee is at a vulnerable point when choosing a mentor. Hopefully, the choice was made because there was admiration for the mentor and it can be difficult to express dissatisfaction with the relationship. This is crucial for success! And the opposite is true. Being honest about whether or not the relationship is productive will only make it better. You both also need the freedom to end the relationship if it doesn’t work out. .

A person can have one or several mentors throughout his life. Someone may be mentoring someone informally without even realizing it, but the relationship can have a significant impact on the personal and professional development of both the mentor and the mentee. It’s important to set ground rules and operate from a place of respect to get the most out of this dynamic relationship.

When you look at your body, you probably notice and worry about cellulite pockets, those wavy, unattractive bags found on your hips, thighs, buttocks, and just about everywhere else.

Cellulite is something that accumulates over time, and it can be one of the first things you notice about yourself, along with one of the last things you can get rid of naturally with diet and exercise. While it takes a combination of a good diet and great exercise to completely get rid of cellulite, there are a few things you can do to help your body become smoother and more toned faster. One of the best ways to deal with cellulite is to rebound.

Bouncing, also known as jumping, jogging, and moving on a mini trampoline, is one of the best exercises you can do to get rid of cellulite. There are dozens of different types of exercises you can do while bouncing, and all of them will help tighten and firm your hips, legs, butt, and stomach. Getting rid of cellulite isn’t something you can do overnight, but it is something you can do gradually, and rebounding is an enjoyable exercise you can do in the privacy of your own home at your own pace.

First of all, it’s important to understand how cellulite accumulates in your body. This is key to understanding how to get rid of it. Cellulite is something that appears on your body for many months or even years. There are several reasons why cellulite builds up on your body. Continuous poor food choices may have caused cellulite to appear. Similarly, cellulite can also form due to poor blood circulation or not enough oxygen reaching the cells in your body. These two factors lead to a buildup of cellulite that can be difficult to combat and lower your self-esteem. Therefore, it is important to find out how rebounding can help you with cellulite.

Rebounding can’t make up for years of poor dietary choices, and it can’t help you make good food choices in the future, either. Eating a good diet is essential to staying healthy, and it’s also important that your body reaps the maximum benefits from daily recovery exercise. If you feel like you’re having trouble sticking to a diet, seek help from your doctor or dietitian on ways to improve your diet, and then follow their advice to eat healthier.

A proper rebounding routine will help stimulate the drainage system of the lymphatic organs. This coordinates the way toxins and wastes are moved out of the body’s cells. When the lymphatic system drains slowly or not at all, toxins and waste fluids remain in the cells and accumulate there, leading to cellulite formation. Removing these toxins and waste from your cells into your liver for disposal will go a long way in helping you get rid of cellulite.

Among its many health benefits, rebounding helps stimulate the lymphatic system, allowing the liver, kidneys, and respiratory systems to work harder and better. This has been shown to be 68% more effective than just jogging.

Lastly, it’s important to rebound correctly on a well-constructed trampoline/mini-trampoline if you really want to get rid of cellulite. Consistency of effort is very important. When you bounce on a mini-trampoline for just 10 minutes every day, you’ll start to see faster results. If you’re not sure what exercises to do on your rebounder, rent or buy a good rebounding DVD. There are many rebounding DVDs for sale on eBay that will show you some effective exercises to do while rebounding. By doing these exercises in your jumper every day for at least 10 minutes, you’ll start to see your cellulite-affected areas of your body tighten and tone in as little as two weeks.

Spring is here, which means summer is right around the corner. So how does that affect our wardrobes? Getting dressed during the time of year when it’s not so hot anymore, but not too cold either, can be quite tricky. However, a few key pieces can smooth the transition and keep you comfortable on chilly mornings and warm afternoons alike.

According to last year’s preventive catwalks, we will be facing a season full of delicate pastel tones, whimsical ruffles, a lot of plastic, among others. Let’s take a look at the top 8 spring/summer women’s fashion trends that you’re sure to fall in love with.

1. Cakes

Barely out of style, but generally overshadowed by their Crayola counterparts, sherbet shades are making a strong comeback this summer. And instead of accessorizing or accentuating a look with a single piece, the runways have verified the power of head-to-toe pastels. Whether it’s pink, lemon or lilac, you can expect to see a range of the prettiest shades in fashion this season.

2. T-shirt dresses

A t-shirt dress is an ideal mid-weather garment because it acts as a perfect layering piece. It’s light enough to wear under sweaters and jackets, and it looks great on its own, too. There’s no better way to start your spring day than by throwing on a casual t-shirt dress and pairing it with your favorite accessories. This piece of clothing has become a versatile must-have that easily earns style points, whatever the occasion.

3. Maxi skirts

The tights are so last month, but it’s still a little chilly for a miniskirt. However, a skirt with a longer hem, such as a ruffled maxi, will keep your legs from being exposed to chilly winds (and also makes a good disguise if you haven’t had time to work on your tan yet). You can easily combine a long skirt with a plain T-shirt and a suede or faux leather jacket.

4. Power shorts

Oh, shorts! So basic, so bland. Just hiding in the back of the drawer just to get it out for a lazy Sunday night. Or so you thought. Spring/Summer 2018 fashion trends have already seen a boom in Statement Shorts. High-waisted leather shorts from St. Laurent and silky boxer shorts from Louise Vuitton, along with a variety of other skinny shorts, are something to look forward to this season.

5. Embroidered blouses

An embroidered blouse with some cold shoulder action can instantly update everything in your closet, from jeans to skirts. Plus, it’s a great item to layer under jackets and sweaters.

6.Checks

When we think of checks, winter comes to mind. This year, however, the checks are everywhere. Whether they’re neutrals, pastels, or punchy, if your wardrobe has something in the geometric print, wear it today while you’re in style. You can find simple ginghams at Loewe, while blue checked shirts at Alexander McQueen and checked bag sets at Mary Katrantzou, along with a variety of other designs at Fendi, including checked tights.

7. Satin

During the London shows, satin was the most prominent fabric for two full seasons. Above all, its brilliance immediately accentuates any silhouette; and second, its innate lightness and fluidity make it an incredibly comfortable option for overnight wear. Designers at Roksanda and Chris Kane opted for flowing gowns and evening wear.

8. monkey

Whenever it’s one of those lazy mornings, a monkey is your best friend. That’s because it’s a one stop shop: you just need to put it on and go! You are ready to go. Plus, they’re refined enough for work, yet casual enough for regular events. With so many options in minimalist styles, bold prints, menswear-inspired tailoring and more, there’s a jumpsuit for just about every occasion, from work and travel to even black-tie events.

So there you have it: 8 standout modern fashion options that are likely to make a big impact on your wardrobe choices this season. Get ready for spring with a spectacular wardrobe!

For years, I have had a problem with patches of dry skin, especially on my face and arms. The degree of severity tends to vary with the weather and my diet. Sometimes these patches tend to itch and of course there is a temptation to scratch, but this only makes the problem worse and increases the chances of infection.

I’ve been battling this problem for many years, so I thought I’d offer some advice for those of you who also struggle with patches of dry skin.

1. Improve your diet. That is, drink more water and make sure you are getting enough omega 3 fatty acids (from fish, nuts, chia seeds, supplements, etc.).

2. Switch to natural soaps and lotions. This is the easiest way to avoid the irritating chemicals (I’ll give you a list below) that make dry patches of skin worse. Always read the ingredient label before buying to make sure it doesn’t contain a skin irritant.

3. Exfoliate. I like chemical exfoliants like Alpha Hydroxy Acid Body Lotion, but some people prefer abrasive type exfoliants. This is a personal choice, but be sure to exfoliate regularly to remove old, dead skin.

4. Moisturize with a pure vegetable oil. I think the two best vegetable oils for moisturizing are coconut oil and camellia oil. You only need to use one of these. Other popular options are jojoba oil, olive oil, and almond oil. Whatever you choose, make sure it is 100% oil and has no additives.

AVOID THESE SKIN IRRITANTS

The following ingredients can make patches of dry skin worse. Don’t buy products that have these ingredients, especially if the ingredients are at the top of the list (meaning they have a higher concentration in the product).

• sodium hydroxide
• potassium hydroxide
• Sodium Lauryl Sulfate
• Sodium laureth sulfate
• triclosan

With just a few simple changes, you can improve the condition of your skin. I find these products can be easily purchased at a local health food store and many online merchants. Go for natural products and stores that sell these types of products, as many people report that they are less irritating than other products.

swollen eyes from crying

Well, lately I’ve been going through an emotional roller coaster. Let’s just say a lot of tears are being shed, and I hope it continues for a few more weeks, at least, healing process, you know?

What I want to know is, what should I do with my swollen eyes from crying? It seems like all the water coming out of my eyes is swelling the skin in that area. Not a pretty look! It worsens the appearance of dark circles and accentuates the slight bags under my eyes.

Being that I still have bills to pay and expenses to meet, I still have to go to work, so I want to look decent.

Please share your tips with me on what works to soothe puffy eyes from crying!