Fashion is something that virtually everyone can identify with, be it a man, woman or child. One of the oldest fashion trends for both genders is shallow piercings. Body piercing dates back to the beginning of humanity, from the ancient Egyptians with stretched out earlobes and lower lips, to ornamental tribal piercings and similar body modifications. Although these civilizations primarily used piercing and stretching for spiritual and cultural purposes, these same trends can be seen in today’s society as a form of fashion.

Today, we have the technology and medicine to ensure that shallow piercing is safe; however, it is up to you to ensure that your pierced skin remains in good condition while it heals. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is neglecting post-piercing care. Not only should you keep your piercing clean and intact, you should also protect it from excessive heat and sun exposure. This includes taking certain precautions when tanning, whether in a bed or in the sun. Read on to learn how to protect your new shallow piercing while you tan.

surface perforations

Shallow piercings are different from traditional piercings in that they don’t go all the way through the skin and out the other side; like ear and navel piercings. Shallow piercings are often seen on the face, on the upper lip or on the cheek. They are also commonly seen on abdomens, arms, and more.

It’s important to protect regular pierced areas when new, but shallow piercings require even more consideration when tanning. You’ll basically treat a surface piercing the same way you would a normal piercing when you tan, but it’s important to take a few extra precautions so you don’t get it infected.

To do:

If your piercing is very new, you should avoid tanning and sun exposure altogether. Wait at least a week before tanning to ensure no infection has formed as a result of the actual tanning. If you were to get a sunburn around the pierced skin, the piercing would take even longer to heal, as well as cause more pain and discomfort, as well as permanent scarring. It also opens you up to a higher risk of post-piercing infection.

Whether you have a superficial or regular piercing, the first step you should take before tanning is to clean the area well. Use an antibacterial soap, clean water, and a clean rag to remove any dirt or germs. Instead of soap, you can also use antiseptic liquids like hydrogen peroxide or isopropyl alcohol.

Once it’s clean, make sure not to apply sunscreen, suntan lotion, or oil near the area. This can also cause infection, pain, swelling, and discomfort.

To prevent sunburn and product contamination, cover pierced skin with a bandage. Just make sure that the adhesive from the bandage does not get into your piercing hole. For added security, consider covering the bandage with another bandage, such as medical gauze or a clean washcloth. In fact, this is recommended for larger surface perforations.

Introduction

You might feel it when that hot stud across the room at the gym gives your lover the “over the top look.” You might experience it if your exes ever cheated on you and then you project it onto your current man. Or you may experience it if he is in an “open relationship” and knows that his partner is “cheating.” Whatever its form, jealousy can take many different faces and can kill your relationship if not handled properly. If you are the one afflicted with jealousy, it can torment and consume you, taking away all security and joy. If you’re the partner of a jealous lover, your frustration at having to “walk on eggshells” and constantly reassure your guy about your commitment to him can be maddening.

Jealousy is not bad in itself. It’s a feeling and all our feelings are fine; it’s what we do with them that can mean the difference between a smooth relationship and a stormy one. Jealousy can actually benefit your partner in its mildest form. But if it’s a pervasive recurring theme that seems to dominate the climate of your relationship, it can sabotage your future together and cause a lot of pain and grievance. This article will address some of the dynamics involved in jealousy and offer some tips for you and your partner to get over it and beat it.

Jealousy and its causes

Jealousy can be defined as a feeling that arises from a perceived threat to your relationship. It almost always involves fear: fear of losing abandonment or losing your partner, fear of being replaced by someone else, fear of not being important enough and being left out, etc. This significantly affects one’s self-esteem and leads to insecurity and the use of self-defeating behaviors to avoid these painful feelings and gain a sense of control (although it never really achieves that and creates vicious cycles of the same dysfunctional behavior over and over again). Counterproductive behaviors can include spying on your partner, getting too attached to him, constantly questioning his whereabouts and activities, among others.

What are the causes of jealousy? There are “internal” and “external” causes. Internal causes can include low self-esteem and confidence (believing that one is unattractive or unworthy to be in a healthy relationship), a history of past experiences that created mistrust, and beliefs that one will be single forever if they lose their partner. External causes may include how the partner acts (expressing interest or flirting with another person) or the actual involvement of a third person in the relationship. “Factors that appear to affect susceptibility to jealousy include the duration and stability of the relationship, the maturity, dependency, and level of self-esteem of individuals, their expectations for emotional gratification, and the perceived availability of alternatives to the primary relationship. (Neidig and Friedman, 1984).

Low levels of jealousy can actually be positive for your relationship. It can be a sign that something is wrong between the two of you. It can help members feel cared for and be an indication not to take themselves for granted. It can also increase communication, commitment, and sexual intensity. “Jealousy becomes problematic when it is expressed indirectly, experienced compulsively, becomes irrational, or leads to extreme levels of surveillance and control” (Neidig & Friedman, 1984).
The main consequence is that it also leads to a serious breakdown in the level of trust and intimacy between the two men, basic ingredients that are necessary for a lasting healthy relationship. And the other paradoxical effect of jealousy is that it can create the very most feared and feared outcome: the end of the relationship.

Tips to beat the beast of jealousy

If you are the one suffering from jealousy…
* Acknowledge your jealousy. Avoid minimizing or denying its existence. Recognize that you are not your jealousy, it is a part of you, an aspect of you that you can learn to manage. Admitting his power over you is the first step to conquering him.

*Identify the cause of your jealousy. What feelings are under your jealousy? Work on developing more effective ways to deal with these specific emotions.

*Keep a journal and write about your experience of jealousy and what it means to you. Ask yourself questions like:

· Do I trust my partner and believe what he says?

Am I projecting my own problems and feelings onto him and blaming him? What is my jealousy really about?

·What hurts? What is missing in my life?

What are the consequences of my jealousy? What do I get out of it that may be perpetuating it?

Are my feelings of jealousy rational or irrational? Are they based more on threats or real insecurities?

*Identify triggers for jealousy and avoid them or find ways to deal with them in a healthy way.

* Live in the present. Your partner is not your ex boyfriend. Learn to control your anger and grieve past losses and hurts.

* Refrain from compulsively obsessing and questioning your partner’s behavior. Control your own thoughts and always check your motives and feelings with reality.

* Realize that you are responsible for your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. You create your own interpretations and perceptions of events and situations. Learn to identify and challenge irrational thoughts and beliefs and develop affirmations or coaching, coping statements to write on index cards for reference to help you through difficult times.

* Practice relaxation techniques to help you cope with your anxiety.

*Make sure you have a separate life from your partner to reduce dependency and bring more fresh air into the relationship. Check in with your friends, build your support system, and find social outings that inspire a sense of fun and purpose.

*Build your self-esteem by taking safe risks that boost your confidence and allow you to see your strengths.

If you are the partner of a jealous lover…
* Be patient and endure this difficult period. Understand how painful and difficult it is for your partner, and empathize and validate their feelings. Provide reassurances of your love, but don’t allow your behavior.

*Take care of yourself. Practice good stress management for emotional well-being.

*Identify ways you could support your partner and show how you value them. Explore your own behavior to determine if you are reinforcing your lover’s jealousy in any way.

And finally, together as a couple…
*Identify if jealousy is rooted in an underlying problem in your relationship. Missing? Is there an unmet need that requires your attention?

* Don’t make assumptions! Avoid reading minds and always check any feelings or thoughts you might have with each other.

*This is a great opportunity to open the channels of communication and see if it is necessary to renegotiate, create or remove new limits or “relationship rules”.

*Make your relationship a #1 priority! Spend lots of quality time together and engage in activities that will revitalize your bond and restore some of that damaged trust and intimacy.

conclusion

Jealousy doesn’t have to rule your life. Commit to aggressively minimizing its influence so that more energy is available for your own self-care and to enrich your relationship. These are the things that really matter. So squash that bug before it has a chance to contaminate what you two have worked so hard to build. Turn that jealousy into passion for you and your partner and in no time you’ll stop hearing Jealousy’s evil whispers. You can do it!

*Reference: Neidig, Peter H. & Friedman, Dale H. (1984). Spousal Abuse: A Couples Treatment Program. Champaign, IL: Research Press Company.

©2005 Brian L. Rzepczynski

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First off, congratulations on completing your college degree! I am impressed with the determination, drive and hard work you have shown during your college days. Good work!

Every day marks the beginning of the next day of your life, but there are certain days that represent important milestones. This is one of them. You are now faced with an almost infinite number of choices as you wait for what you will do and where you will go next. There is no right or wrong path to take in life, as all journeys can be great. It is you who will ultimately determine how interesting, satisfying and rewarding the journey is, not the path you take.

Having said that, I encourage you to take some risks, especially early in life when you may have more flexibility, and consider exploring different directions and adventures that may not be so obvious and commonplace. If there is nothing wrong with your ambition to be like everyone else, then you should follow the conventional path in life. If you want to try something different, you have to throw conventional wisdom out the window and make what most people would characterize as risky or even irresponsible decisions. This could be anything from spending a couple of years working somewhere in China, starting your own company, joining a sub-Saharan relief organization, going to graduate school in New Zealand, joining a two-year ocean expedition. or work in Switzerland or Norway for a few years. The list is endless.

Life is made up of many little journeys, and you want to strive to make them as enjoyable, interesting, and rewarding as possible. When you start a journey, you never know what will happen along the way and where it will end, which, for me at least, is incredibly fascinating. Regardless of which path you choose, I know you’ll be fine. But try to go after something you really want to do, even though it’s not always easy to know what it is. A tip: never let money be the main motivator of what you decide to do. Success is not measured by your job, your education, how much money you have, or what kind of car you drive. Success is determined by who you are and how you lead your life.

I could spend a lot of time giving advice, but I’m sure you’ll figure it all out along the way, which is the way of life. But I will share a few things that I have found to be very helpful and perhaps could have done more during certain parts of my life:

-Treat all people with respect and be kind to everyone, no exceptions.

-Always maintain the integrity of your personal character – define who you are

-Have many good friends and actively cultivate your friendships.

Don’t expect too much from others – expect too much from yourself

-Do the right thing even if it’s hard – it’s always tempting to take the path of least resistance

Don’t worry about the past or things you can’t affect, they just make you miserable

-Never criticize or complain – no skills, intelligence or experience required

-You have more power and abilities than you think you have – yes, you can move mountains

-Do more than expected at work, at home, don’t expect pats on the back, the rewards will eventually come.

-Never be afraid to tell the truth, even if it is bad news: hiding problems only makes them worse.

– Be an independent thinker and make your own decisions – lead, don’t follow

– All relationships require a lot of work from both parties – it is never easy – mutual trust and respect is the key

-Staying healthy

-And remember: life is too important to take it seriously

I could go on and on, but enough lecturing. I know you’ll figure it all out.

Once again, good work on your degree and enjoy your journeys in life!

Are you a person who has loved and appreciated your pet for many years? Are you having difficulties with the loss of your animal friend? Are you experiencing emotions of sadness and pain?

It can be really difficult to accept, grasp and process an animal friend’s transition from physical to spirit form. This physical separation can leave you with a huge gap of unexplained emotions and grievances that can be overwhelming!

However, rest assured… there is a guide for you. When working with a…

• Professional Animal Environment
• Someone who will support the spiritual transition of your animal or a
• Professional Animal Guide Communicator

You will get answers to your most common questions!

These are the most common questions I want to share with you…

• What happens when my animal dies?
• Why was my dog ​​or cat behaving like this before crossing?
• Does my horse that passed have a special message for me?
• Will my animal come back to live with me?
• Does my animal friend know that he is going to die?

These are great questions and the answers are there to help you focus your energy and change your perspective. And the good news is… knowing the answers to these questions can help you focus your energy, shift your perspective, and work through the many emotions that can prevent you from healthy processing.

Question #1 – What happens when my animal dies?

When your animal friend dies, it transitions into Spirit Energy or becomes a Soul Spirit. They exist without disease, pain or fear. Your animal friend is appreciated and respected for the work he did for you on Earth, which is extremely honorable. Since they live in Soul Spirit, their role is to prepare and transition for their next role.

Question #2 – Why did my dog ​​or cat behave the way it did before crossing?

If your animal friend exhibits any new behavior days, hours, or minutes before crossing over, this is their form of energy transition. There will be a period of time where they will be between bodies, which means they are in Soul Spirit but have not fully transitioned. This transition period could take up to 2 weeks. So if you notice some new and uncharacteristic behaviors… that’s okay… they’re just transitioning in their own way.

Question #3 – Does my passing horse have a special message for me?

The answer is yes! When an animal dies, it is still possible to contact it, and it often wants to continue in contact with its people for many years to come. Although they are not in the physical body, their spirit is alive and well. You can still see, hear or feel your pet, even for a fleeting moment.

Question #4 – Will my animal come back to live with me?

They can and they do! Especially, if you made a soul contract with your animal to continue life on the Earth plan again. They will return as a pet. Animals do not reincarnate as humans.

Question #5 – Does my animal friend know that he is going to die?

They Yes! They are fine-tuned and highly evolved beings. They are part of our Divine Plan to help us become better human beings. They have made Soul Contracts with us that have a life of their own. They are okay with death and when they die it means their Soul Contract with us is complete in the Earth plan and they taught us what we needed to know.

So remember… even though your animal enters a new Soul Spirit life, it will always be accessible to you. With their soul or spirit you can contact them and hear what they have to say. By exploring these questions and others you may have, you will begin to feel a sense of calm and relief when you receive the special message from your beloved animal friend.

If you wear makeup, you need to know how to clean makeup brushes. If you don’t clean your makeup brushes, you’ll end up messing them up and throwing them away, or they’ll spoil your clean, fresh look when changing your makeup colors. If you’re not sure how to clean makeup brushes, don’t worry; it is simple. The main thing is to use the right type of cleanser for the type of cosmetic brush you have. It is also very important to clean your makeup brushes frequently so that very little buildup occurs on them.

Applying makeup correctly is at least as important as the quality of the makeup itself. Professional makeup artists spend a lot of time smoothing, blending, and applying creams and powders to their clients’ soon-to-be flawless faces. Large brushes help make perfect makeup possible.

What materials and hair products are the brushes made of?

Makeup brushes come in all kinds of materials, the cheapest ones are usually made of sponge or plastic and the most expensive ones are made of some kind of animal hair. The high-quality natural hair brushes used by professional painters and models are made from sable, and if you want a particular brush shape in a high-quality brush, you can find them at art supply stores. Badger fur, pony hair, and even squirrel hair are also used to make brushes. The best makeup, like mineral makeup, will often come with a fine brush set – the perfect application gives your makeup a beautifully smooth finish.

The importance of properly cleaning your makeup brushes

Properly cleaning your makeup brushes will save you time, money, and even your face! You’ll save time because clean makeup brushes make it easy to apply, so loose powder goes where you want it instead of clinging to an oily brush. You won’t have to apply makeup as often because your makeup will be fresh, uncontaminated with skin oils and old, rusty colors. You will save money cleaning your makeup brushes because they will last longer, so you won’t have to buy new ones. And it can save your face from breakouts associated with bacteria and oil buildup on old, dirty brushes. Five minutes a week, a little soapy water, and your makeup brushes will stay fresh and new for much longer. View a selection of inexpensive brush cleaners that will refresh dirty cosmetic brushes.

Properly cleaning your cosmetic brushes will make them last longer

In addition to letting your brushes last longer (very important if you’re buying softer, more expensive brushes), knowing how to clean your makeup brushes can help minimize skin problems like oily breakouts or eye infections. mascara. brushes Hygiene is one reason experts say you should never share your makeup with a friend: You can transmit bacteria on the applicators. Cold sores, acne, rashes, and staph germs can easily be passed from one makeup brush to another, so never borrow someone else’s brush or puff. In fact, for people who do their makeup with their fingers, it’s not even a good idea to rub someone else’s blush or eyeshadow on your fingers, because you’re picking up bacteria from their fingers and skin.

How to wash your makeup brushes without bacteria

You can wash your makeup brushes in warm, soapy water, using an antibacterial soap, shampoo, or hand sanitizer. There are also special products for cleaning your makeup brushes. Lipstick brushes may need special care due to the extra emollients in lip colors, which can make them sticky and difficult to wash off. Wash them with a mild degreasing cleanser you can already use for your skin, and take your time getting lipstick off the bristles of the brush.

Shape the brushes while they are wet and allow them to dry to retain their softness. Lay them flat instead of pointy, or you’ll damage the bristles or handle of the brush. Wash them gently, never rubbing, or the hairs will start to come out. Follow the cleaning instructions that come with your makeup brushes in case they have special requirements. And if you can’t bring yourself to commit to cleaning your brushes, you can always buy disposable sponge brushes and throw them away more often. Especially if you suffer from very oily skin or acne, make sure to always use a clean makeup brush to minimize bacterial issues that can add to your skin problems.

Dirty makeup brushes have bacteria and won’t give you a flawless look.

Whatever you do, don’t use the same makeup brushes day after day without washing them. In addition to harboring bacteria, makeup pigments bind with skin oils and make brushes sticky and messy. Makeup colors can shift, turning darker or orange due to oxidation and mixing with skin oils or dust, complicating your daily makeup routine. Clean your brushes once a week to keep them working properly, and if a brush gets dirty or misshapen, throw it away and get a new one.

“Girls like bad boys.” This is a very popular phrase, and in some cases it is true. Bad boys aren’t boring, they’re not nerdy, they’re not shy, and they have an I-don’t-care attitude. They are sometimes mysterious, with an aura of charm and relaxed body language that is attractive to the opposite sex. Oddly enough, abusers are almost never bad boys: they want you to like them, so they share their feelings with you because they want you to engage with their emotions. If you are involved with their feelings, then you will try to figure them out, try to learn what makes them tick.

If your boyfriend slaps you, punches you, chokes you, shakes you, hits you, pushes you, or causes you physical pain in any way, the answer to the question is easy: yes, he is an abuser. There is no need to read further.

Unfortunately, abusive men don’t show their hands early on. Not your ‘physical’ hands. But there are ways to discern if the abusive tendency lurks beneath his exterior. Here are three indications that your boyfriend may be a bully hiding in lover’s clothing:

1. He is self-centered, narcissistic and selfish. All of these terms are identical, but I will endeavor to elaborate on their meanings. Egocentrism is self-explanatory: the self is the center of attention. Narcissistic means having an excessive or erotic interest in oneself. (Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration.) Selfish means excessively conceited or self-absorbed. Now, think about your boyfriend and the last few conversations you had with him. Were they mainly about him? Did you get the feeling that he didn’t listen to you or your opinions because he continually reminded you of the subject and how he thought? In her book “Why Does She Do That?” Lindy Bancroft states, “Egocentrism is a personality trait that is highly resistant to change, having deep roots in deep entitlement (in abusers) or emotional injury. early severe (in abusers, non-abusers), or both (in narcissistic abusers).

2. You seem to get serious about the relationship right away. Most of the time you find that men avoid commitments. They don’t want to settle down, or haven’t found the right one yet. When the subject of marriage or stability comes up, they want to change the subject, avoid the subject altogether. If your boyfriend is already talking about the future, wanting to spend the rest of his life with you, it could be because he wants to “own you.” How many battered women have said that their abusers told them “If I can’t have you, no one will.” If he tries to slow down and he resists, this may be a sign of danger ahead.

3. His anger scares you. Anger is a normal emotion. We all get angry sometimes. But when someone’s anger is intimidating, something is wrong. Examples of intimidating anger are approaching the object of your anger, pointing your finger in the face, pushing, blocking movement, or restraining yourself. The excuse often given by someone exhibiting the above behavior is “I just want you to listen to me!” If your boyfriend kicks in doors or makes holes in the wall; if he throws things, sometimes hitting you, sometimes not; he speeds or attempts to vandalize a vehicle when he is angry; he makes you cringe or flinch when he’s angry; or makes veiled threats like “You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry; these are signs of danger.

Abusive men don’t want to let the cat out of the bag too soon. They want to spend time with you, involve you, make you believe that nobody loves you like they do; In short, they want to own you. Are you a possession? If not, pay attention to the signs it gives you. All the ways an abuser behaves lead to the one thing he wants more than anything: control. He takes control of your own life and resists abuse. Once abuse occurs, it’s just the beginning. Once abusers are in control, they often refuse to give it up. In other words, if he ever hits you, he’ll hit you again.

Science News Magazine February 3, 2018, “People tend to think of memories as ephemeral and deeply personal possessions: fragments of emotions, words, colors and smells sewn into our unique neural tapestries as life goes on.” One of today’s most entrenched explanations places engrams (memories) directly inside synapses, connections where chemical and electrical messages move between nerve cells, or neurons. However, Tonegawa and her colleagues in 2015 in the Journal Science concluded that “memory was stored in something unrelated to the strength of synapses.” “The cellular machines that are required to retrieve memories are not necessarily the same machines that store memories.” Ryan, Tonegawa and Glanzman (lead scientists) think that…accumulated synapses are important for retrieving memories, but not what actually stores them… Levin and Tal Shomrat reported in 2013 in the Journal of Experimental Biology “The fact that That memory somehow survived the decapitation experiments suggests that signals outside the brain may somehow store memories, albeit temporarily.” “For now, the field has not been able to explain the memories in tangible terms.”

Assumption: There is a human spirit that each person inherits from their parents at birth that stores that person’s memory.

Looking at the full Science News article cited above and the research behind the article, it follows that the brain is the mechanism for retrieving memories into consciousness, but not for storing them, and that memory is not only not stored in the brain, but perhaps not stored in the body. So where is the memory stored? This is the question I address in this article.

Look around the room you are sitting in, and then look away. Can you remember what you saw? Do you think it’s likely that the brief glimpse you just took caused the brain to physically change so quickly that any part of your body was immediately altered to store that glimpse and all the flashes and senses you’ve experienced in your life? Do you believe in life after death? If so, wouldn’t he think that he would retain his memory when the body passed away? While science doesn’t normally address spiritual questions, I believe that finding the location of memory will help us understand the nature of the human spirit and more than that.

Theory: To discuss the human spirit, one must look beyond science for the theory and then try to use scientific methods to see if the theory might be true. I don’t think math helps us find a proof. I draw my theory from Christian Bible revelations and personal experience because it is only through revelation and personal experience that spirit can be cognitively understood and felt.

Personal experience: While spirit cannot currently be scientifically proven, it can be felt through emotional energy. If we think about what can be detected in the human spirit, the most evident is love. Love cannot be detected directly with the senses, but everyone knows that it exists. This is also true for hate, anger, envy, and other emotions. Think about how your energy level increases when you experience any of these emotions. The increase in energy we experience is the result of chemicals in the brain reacting as a result of information received by the spirit’s brain. The concept is like cloud computing where information is stored outside of the computer. Under this concept, the window to the spirit is emotion. The theory is that all memory is stored in the spirit and we can detect this through emotion, a direct link between the spirit and cognition.

We know of the Human Spirit through Revelation: I propose that each one of us is the result of the combination of the physical and spiritual “DNA” of our parents. If we believe in God, we are told that men and women are created in the image of God. (We have a spirit and a physical form like Jesus). However, not only do we look like Him, but God has created us so that we can also reproduce. The man’s sperm fertilizes the woman’s egg and another human being is formed. That human being is “engendered” by two humans and has his own physical body and, also according to my theory, a human spirit of his mother and father. I propose that the human spirits of the mother and father unite to form the human spirit of their baby. I propose that each one of us is the result of the combination of the physical and spiritual “DNA” of our parents. This human spirit feeds his conscience and has the free will to seek God or walk away.

I further propose that the human spirit is the spiritual egg of a spiritual person. From a human spiritual perspective, we are all women. If a person seeks God, God impregnates his human spirit with the Holy Spirit to form a spiritual person, just as the father’s sperm impregnates the mother’s ovum to form a physical person. According to this theory, the two spirits (God’s and the individual’s) develop into a spirit embryo and are finally born as a spirit person, a child of God at the time of a person’s physical death. If you think about the story of the Virgin Mary, we see this described, in part, in the birth of Jesus.

Luke 1:35 (ESV)

35 And the angel said to him: The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; therefore, the child that is to be born will be holy; he will be called the Son of God.

Jesus only had half a human spirit because Mary was a virgin. She had to be a virgin under this theory. Human spirits only result from the union of human parents. Jesus, therefore, had half the human spirit of Mary and the full Spirit of God within her miraculously conceived human body. He was tempted and felt pain showing the half of Mary, but he overcame his human desires by the Holy Spirit of God. He had both a physical and a Holy Spiritual body while he was alive on earth. The Apostles saw his spiritual body during his transfiguration. When he was crucified, his physical body passed away and his spiritual body remained. He is the first Son of God.

Under this theory, the spiritual person is born after the physical death of the physical person. We are literally born again in the spirit as children of God. With all the memories we gathered while we were physically alive. This would be you with all your memories, skills and abilities still in a recognizable spirit body. As Paul says in Romans 8 Verse 23, now we only have the firstfruits of the Spirit and we are waiting for our full adoption/birth as children of God. These firsts include all our memory. This makes us spiritual embryos throughout our physical life and land in the womb of God. The human spirit has the choice to love God or walk away. If the choice is to love God, then the Holy Spirit comes upon us as he did Mary and creates a spiritual embryo uniting our human spirit and the Holy Spirit. In this way, God creates a truly loving spiritual family understood as “children of God” who truly love him. And, Jesus is the scoop, so we will be like him. This is what Paul has to say:

1 Corinthians 15:42-46 (NIV)

42 So also is the resurrection of the dead. It is sown a perishable body, it is raised an imperishable body;

43 It is sown in dishonor, it is raised in glory; he is down in weakness, he is up in power;

44 natural body is born, spiritual body is raised. If there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body.

45 Thus it is also written: “The first MAN, Adam, BECAME A LIVING SOUL.” (Human spirit) The last Adam (Jesus Christ) became a life-giving spirit. (Holy Spirit)

46 However, the spiritual is not first, but the natural; then the spiritual.

Romans 8:14-17 (ESV)

14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are the sons of God.

15 For you have not received the spirit of bondage to make you fear again, but you have received the spirit of adoption as children by which we cry: Abba, Father!

16 The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God,

17 And if children, then heirs, heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him.

We will be born again as children of God.

Our spirit in the above quote is our human spirit that contains the seat of our memory throughout our lives before and after our death. Memories are retrieved by the brain.

This is a common question among those who are thinking of leaving or have left an emotionally abusive partner (Narcissist, Sociopath, Borderline, etc.). While there may be some exceptions, the main reason a Psychopath does not leave someone in peace is because your target has not implemented No Contact in its real form.

For example, I often read on forums that someone has been “no contact” for a number of days, but then gets a phone call, email, or Facebook message from the person they’re trying to get away from. which of course keeps them in a state of confusion and doubt. (The only reason an N-Ex should have an open line of communication is in the case of joint custody, and even then, there should only be one.)

If there’s a way for the psycho to contact you, then you haven’t gone No Contact… you’ve gone “No Response” which is different. Let’s talk about what No Contact really means:

what no contact IT IS

Contactless is: blocking your ex from your cell phone. There are a number of apps that will allow you to do this. “Mr Number” is great because you can set it to hang up automatically without going to voicemail.

No contact: block your ex from your email accounts. All of them. If you’re the type who needs to explain what you’re doing, send one final email and then block it. Don’t stay open to an answer because doing so will only lead to more craziness.

Contactless is: blocking your ex from your social networks. All of them. There is absolutely no reason to keep them on your “friends” list. This includes Facebook, Skype, Tango, VooLoo, Facetime, etc. Make a list of all the networks you use and remove the Ex from all of them.

Contactless is: changing your cell phone number, if necessary, and only giving it to friends and family. It’s not your ex.

No contact is: not answering the door if they come. And they probably will. Don’t break down the door so you can tell them you’re complying with the No Contact rule. It backfires and shows Narc that they’re winning, which is all they want in the first place. If they insist, move away from the door, go to your room, put on earplugs, sing a song or connect with headphones and your favorite song/meditation on YouTube. Pretend they’re not there. If you start to worry about your safety, file a restraining order. You don’t need to tell them you’re going to do it, just do it.

Contactless is – Shred any letters received through the Postal Service. Don’t open them, just shred them. If you don’t dare to do it, give them to a good friend to destroy them. (If you have a custody agreement, let a trusted friend open the letter to determine if it’s a legal matter or just your attempted Hoovering.)

Non-contact is: not responding to friends who send you requests for information.

Contactless is: Don’t accept new “friend requests” on social media, especially if it’s a no-picture request and you’ve JUST established yourself.

what no contact It is not:

No Contact Isn’t – Leaving them with full access to call you and decide whether or not to answer the phone when they call.

Contactless is not: leaving them on your “friends” list on their social media so you can covertly show them how happy you are to make them jealous and/or miss them OR so you can post cute pictures of yourself to make them feel they “sorry” for how they treated you.

Contactless is not: ignore them for a few days to teach them a lesson, then let them in like nothing happened.

No Contact Isn’t – Ask your mutual acquaintances about their ex so you can find out if they are dating again.

No Contact Isn’t – Send a message or text saying you’re going to go “No Contact” and then give in when they start having a fit. They will launch an attack. Save yourself the drama. Keep those lines of communication blocked.

Contactless Isn’t: Telling all your friends you’re gone contactless, but secretly reaching out to your ex because you’re embarrassed and ashamed of the truth.

The why

There are usually three reasons why the psychopath may pass during No Contact:

1) You really forgot that Instagram account you hardly ever use and find a message from your ex from two weeks ago.

2) He stalked you to your favorite coffee shop/restaurant/park, etc.

3) You secretly want the Ex to contact you.

If you find a message on a networking site that you rarely use, just delete it and delete/block the Ex.

If you are being stalked/followed to a place you are visiting, you should let them know that you are not interested in continuing the relationship and ask them to leave you alone. If they resist, inform them that you will involve the authorities if necessary. As a last resort, get back in your car, go home, and call the police to file a report. It is important to establish the fact that you no longer want contact with your ex in case your situation goes to court later, such as if you need to file a restraining/protective order.

If #3 resonates with you, it’s important to understand why the psychopath is trying to get back together with you. The following are common examples of why they do this (this is not a complete list):

Because they can: When you repeatedly allow the psychopath back into your life after blatant abuse and mistreatment, they will not only continue to abuse you, but they will take this as a sign that you are willing to accept such abuse.

You’ve started to internalize their lies about you: after months and years of hearing that no one else would want you except for sex and money, you believe it’s true. Also, you believe their abusive descriptions of you, like you’re too old, too fat, not smart enough, not pretty or handsome enough… think about it, would someone who loves you EVER say these things?

· Punish and destroy: they enjoy playing cat and mouse. Since you dared to set a limit, they want to show that they can not only violate it; they will destroy the self-esteem that you have left at that moment.

Many targets of emotional abuse feel that implementing No Contact and sticking with it is a cruel way to end the relationship. That’s because they are capable of feeling compassion and empathy for others. Psychopaths don’t. While you try to protect their feelings, they are plotting ways to make you pay for your No Contact decision, and you will only suffer more at their hands. Unfortunately, it is necessary to detach from your feelings of empathy and view No Contact as a way to escape the abuse, begin recovery, and begin a path to a new life that will hopefully not include more abuse. Also, once the psycho finds a new supply source, he’ll discard you anyway.

It was her turn to take care of her young son. And it was in the morning, time to soak his skin in hot water in the shower, so that he would be very clean shaven when he shaved. His son was crying. He could hear it but he wasn’t listening. The voice of self-criticism was stronger. He said to make sure there wasn’t a hair out of place, not a bulge of skin. He was frantic, a normal morning ritual for him.

His son cried harder. His diaper was soaked. He missed his potty time, so he had to wet his diaper. The crying made him lose control of his bladder again, and now he was drenched. He was so upset that he couldn’t walk. He dragged himself to the bathroom where dad was. Daddy played a game with him to keep him from crying.

The game was in the balance. John (a fictional character), had to weigh himself. Another “normal” morning ritual. And the afternoon ritual, all normal, of course. It never occurs to him that there is something wrong with this obsession. It’s normal to look your best and be “healthy.” He needs to weigh himself twice a day, in case his weight gets close to an “unhealthy” level. He has just under 10% body fat, normal, he considers, for muscle-building athletes.

Only John is not an athlete. He works in an office and works out in the gym for 1 hour a day, five days a week. It’s too exhausting to do more, but that’s also considered normal, since he does intense workouts, aided by “healthy” shakes from him.

The same shakes your doctor recommended you stop. The same shakes the dietitian recommended her doctor told her to stop, at least for a while. the same shakes the allergist told her contributed to his allergies. The same shakes that the alternative health practitioner said were affecting his health. Of course, they are all wrong; nosy bodies interfering.

He is satisfied with himself. While his daughter plays the grief game with him, the crying stops. And he is 100 g thinner. So eating fat-free foods is perfect. He is very happy with his new diet; two shakes in the morning and at night, a low-fat sandwich for his colleagues to watch him eat at lunchtime, and meat cooked so well on a rack that all the fat oozes out of him. He is delighted. The new diet is working.

Smiling happily at his son, his son responds with a smile. Dad notices.

At that moment, his ex-wife rings the doorbell. She picks up her son after the night visit, changes his diaper and feeds him in the car.

John is glad she’s out of the way. He can now go to the gym and forget what she did to him. Like all women, she was a demanding useless woman who left him. And she was also fat. That stupid doctor refused to send her to the dietician because of her weight. The doctor had the wrong equipment. She couldn’t see how fat she was; unpleasant.

His mother is always slim, a real beauty. He had a happy childhood, always taught not to show his feelings, encouraged to be the strongest, leanest and most muscular man in high school. His mother is the best. That counselor he saw lied and told him that he had a bad childhood. Another stupid useless. His parents loved him very much. They sent him to the best schools, bought him the latest toys, gadgets, phones, and computers. They were a happy family.

He gets dressed and goes to the gym. She goes home to shower. He never showers in the gym. She weighs herself one more time, then dresses to go see her parents. Happy times ahead.