How a person is an adult is largely influenced by how they were raised as a child. An offender background check will reveal any of the following: (1) the child did not receive enough positive love and attention; (2) the child received no positive encouragement (children, like any of us, need validation) and, what is worse, was subjected to humiliation, eroding self-confidence and building an inferiority complex and low self-esteem; (3) the child was cruelly treated through disproportionate anger and punishment. When children do not receive positive feedback and a nurturing environment from at least one parent, the tendency is to seek acceptance and attention elsewhere, often through peers. Then when they become adolescents out of control, we think that is a normal process that they go through, and going through adolescence is the most challenging part because it is at this stage that they are between childhood and adulthood and on the road to find your identity.

Anyone can achieve successful parenting, even with single parents, and no matter the situation. Here are some sound words that can help you achieve this:

(1) Provide unconditional love and positive attention: Love your children just for being your children, not because they excelled in school or sports, not just because they show talent, but just because they are your children. Give them a lot of attention, communicate a lot, give them a hug or a reassuring touch, take time to listen to them. Attend school functions. Enjoy activities with them, do things together, whether it’s a fun activity or chores around the house. Children love and seek attention from their parents; whether they get it positively or negatively depends on what the parents reinforce. If they don’t get positive attention and acceptance from parents, they will always look elsewhere, and peers are their most likely resource. Create a stronger bond with your children and they will always gravitate towards that bond.

(2) Create a positive environment within each child: As children grow, they need affirmation of what they are doing, reinforces a habit or behavior. Therefore, always keep in mind to praise good work and achievements, no matter how small those successes are; for them, it can already mean a lot and this builds self-confidence. Support their interest and encourage them in what aptitude or talent you can see in your child. On the contrary, when he does something mean or unpleasant, do not reprimand him without telling him why, and if you have to do it, do it as calmly as possible and in private: humiliation, especially in front of others, creates low self-esteem and resentment. , and a possible start of hostile behavior. Also, NEVER compare one child to another. Always remember that each child is unique and has their own abilities or characteristics.

(3) Teach them responsibility: love but don’t coddle – even as young children they have to learn responsibility, like putting away their toys, making their bed, setting aside time to study, even sharing small chores around the house – this in particular 2 things, you teach them responsibility and serves as a bonding activity as well. Teaching them responsibility can also be done by showing them that receiving something they want is sometimes a reward for positive behavior, that in their own way they “worked” for what they received. Gives positive reinforcement and encouragement for a fact or action.

(4) Teach them to be kind and helpful, as well as to appreciate what they have. Teaching your children to be kind and helpful creates a kind spirit within them. Similarly, letting them appreciate what they have will create a positive outlook. When my children were growing up, and we would see unfortunate or unpleasant situations, I always told them how blessed they were that they were not in the same situation but at the same time, seeing how blessed they were, to pass it off as kindness. . The best way to show this is when they see this in you!

(5) Give them the gift of inner strength, to accept mistakes, rejection and failure in a constructive way – Knowing that it is normal to fail (and not be scolded for it!) and to make mistakes is a good teaching exercise children inner strength. from the beginning, that things happen sometimes and that the important thing is that he or she did the best they could, not THE best, and that they learned from these mistakes instead of sulking and reflecting on these mistakes. Another important way we can teach our children inner strength is to not give in to everything they want. As parents, we are sometimes guilty of doing this, but instant gratification every time won’t build character in kids, it will help them realize that they can’t have everything they want, but explained in a loving way.

(6) Put motivation in a positive perspective: When you encourage your child to do things, especially in school, teach him the value of doing his best, instead of negative programming. “Study or you’re grounded”: This makes for a short-term negative motivation, rather than teaching your child the value of her future.

(7) To a certain extent, involve them in the current situation; how you handle this will depend on the age of the children. Knowing the right time and the way to say this is crucial. Are you having certain financial struggles? Serious marital problems even to the point of divorce? While these are adult problems, they can be communicated to the child to some extent. This gives them a solid understanding of reality. The key here is to explain it in the least negative way possible without showing bitterness but rather acceptance and optimism.

(8) Learn when to apologize: As adults and parents, we are not infallible. Sometimes a sudden outburst of anger from a parent, or a false accusation, will send a child down. Learn to apologize to them, at the same time this also teaches them to be humble and do the same.

Successful parenting involves a lot of love, patience, and communication. The key is to develop a close and positive relationship with your children and they will come out on top no matter what situation the family finds itself in, even in the midst of a broken marriage or divorce. We only get one chance to raise our children: once they grow crooked, this is difficult to correct. Therefore, the greatest gift we can give our children is to raise them with the right values, attitude, and character.

“If we die tomorrow, the company we work for may replace us in a week, but our family will feel the loss forever. However, we spend more time with work than with family, an unwise investment.”