Is your relationship with your man stuck in a rut? Is he turning away from you and finding comfort elsewhere? You can get it back in no time. If your relationship hasn’t been as passionate as it was in its early stages, don’t think it’s over. Boys are like little children, no matter how old they are, they will always have a short attention span. It’s really up to you to wake up and re-awaken his interest once you feel like he’s slowly slipping away. Here are seven pros and cons for keeping your man’s eyes on you:

Try to make him fall in love in a unique way.
The first thing to do when you feel like the relationship has cooled off is to try to get the heat back. Surprise him with a dinner loaded with aphrodisiacs. After dinner tell him that you have prepared a special dessert and that it is a surprise, so he has to sit blindfolded and wait. Then change into your hottest lingerie, grab your dessert and start feeding him, letting his hands roam over your nearly naked body. He will be so aroused by the sensations in his fingertips and the sweet dessert in his mouth. It will always be true: the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

Don’t confront him about where the relationship is going.
The mortal sin you could commit is a confrontation. It just scares a guy, because he won’t know what to tell you and he’ll just be pressured to give you all sorts of reasons to satisfy your demands. Understand that a guy who has lost interest may also be confused, so asking him for a straight answer won’t exactly get you what you need and can only turn into a major fight.

Take a genuine interest in their interests.
He spends his weekends climbing mountains and you’ve never gone on those expeditions with him. Surprise him one day by announcing that you’ve brought gear so you can climb mountains with him. Tell him you’d like to take a nature trip and exercise your legs. Make him feel like you’re not exactly doing it to please him, but that you’re genuinely interested in taking up a new sport or hobby. In this sense, you get involved in his life without putting pressure on him.

Don’t get too excited and turn on the drama.
Crying, scolding and yelling are enough to turn a guy off. Show him that you are mature and that you can handle a relationship that is going cold. He acts as normal as possible: when he is ready to talk to you about it, he will.

Give him the time and space he needs.
So when you’ve finally got your issues resolved, let him have the space and time he needs, and do it gracefully. He will be perplexed about how you handled the painful situation. But because of this, he will respect you more and regain interest from him.

Don’t hold a bitter grudge.
When he asks for quiet time, let him know that it’s okay to still be friends after all the fuss. Laugh about the old days and keep talking to each other from time to time. Guys always love a woman who can carry herself with confidence and grace, despite harrowing experiences. And if you stay calm, this man who begged to be released will come crying and begging you to take him back. If he doesn’t, he’s fine: you kept your composure in the end and you still have his respect.

Make him feel like a loser.
Make me miss you. it’s just that. Show him what a woman you are. Flaunt all your good sides and show him that you are above him. He will realize that he was wrong to get ahead of you like that and he will chase you again.