The joint family system is in serious danger of extinction due to some misconceptions. Economic growth, professionalism, and privacy were major misconceptions. The sweet and pleasant sight of the joint family is now limited to family photography comprising a large number of family members, who adore the walls of ruined buildings called Hawelis. The young man of today simply cannot imagine the practical existence of such families because for him it is not possible to satisfy the wishes of all family members. It was also a surprise to me until I decided to reflect on it and scratch the limited gray cells available with me. . I had to turn to math to find an answer to this. As I probed deeper, he enlightened me with the multiplication and division of happiness and pain. If everything was going well with the joint family system, why is it in danger of extinction? You need to think about it carefully.

The change of the magic words from “WE” and “OUR” to “I” and “MY” initiated the separation. The attitude of personal growth rather than the growth of the family as a whole dealt the next serious blow. As in a tug of war, different participants apply different magnitudes of force, however in the current scenario, the person with the greatest strength is asking for most of the cake. The belief in the success of the family as a whole took a back seat because I and I started to matter more. As a result, we begin to tell the children present that the particular toy or room belongs to them. This sowed the seeds of separation in small minds and then became the main characteristic of their personality. He could not even share the parental love with the other siblings and the parents began to glorify the love that a particular child had for them. Instead of taking it as a serious alert for what was to come, they began to enjoy it.

The misconception of economic growth, materialism, and privacy dealt another blow to the whole family system. Personally, I am not willing to buy the concept of PRIVACY, which is a strong defense factor in the disintegration of the family system. I feel like the term privacy needs to be redefined. For me, privacy is when I’m in the bathroom, when I’m changing my clothes, when I’m in the middle of a good book, when I’m in bed with my wife. I would not like to be disturbed during all these activities. However, apart from this, I don’t need privacy because I have nothing else to hide. Following the current scenario of families made up of parents, 2 children, can anyone guarantee that your door lock holes have never been misused? Whereas during the previous joint family system, one could never risk standing by the wall, as you never knew who could show up, when and from where. So it was more privacy before than now and don’t be surprised if your MMS gets spread everywhere.

Those most affected by the breakdown of the joint family system are children and the elderly. Children are confined to computers, video games, or watching unwanted content when they are alone. The elderly instead had to seek relief in “ELDERLY HOUSES” or the so-called Gardens that are on the verge of extinction due to our professional and practical attitude. They do not even have ears to hear their stories of afflictions at the hands of their children, whom they had raised so lovingly in the hope of being by their side, during this stage of their life. This segment of people realizes what they have lost, however, in today’s scenario, their children would not listen because they will only realize when they are in their position. Through this article, however, I would like to thank very much my grandmother and my maternal grandfather, who marked the beginning of my childhood with so much love and affection. Believe me, I am willing to pay every penny to feel the warmth they generate.

In short, we realize that there have been less gains than losses. If happiness multiplied in the whole family system, remember that tensions also divided. We need to put our limits of thought to rethink a bit and help the old family system to nurture and flourish. Remember, the whole family system is like a sprawling BANGALOW that is close to the ground and provides us with wonderful gifts of nature to enjoy, while today’s isolated family system is like a FLOOR that looks brilliant from a distance, but remember that you are away from the earth and basic gifts of nature. Decide for yourself what you prefer? I’m sure most of us would say -Give us BANGALOW any day. Let’s make a start and others will follow. This would help all members of the family, including parents, children and the elderly, to smile and smile in a meaningful way.

Bakshinder