When we were young, we set fortune and career goals and immersed ourselves in busy lives. However, as a parent, our children’s happiness and future are at the heart of our long-term plan. Whether we should educate our children to become good learners with intelligence or good personalities and happiness will not be an easy question for parents.

Since society has been changing as dramatically as it is today, a person who only studies well and has deep professional knowledge is not guaranteed success. This is demonstrated by thousands of cases of dismissal and unemployment each year, although many of these people are university graduates, some with master’s degrees and even doctorates, and interns. Therefore, if parents are only inclined to encourage or force their children to learn well, it is certainly not the right thing to do. Not to mention that the more knowledge that accumulates in the minds of children without care and love, the greater the risk of children suffering from depression and mental trauma.

Many research studies and observations of educators, psychologists and neurologists around the world have shown that the most important thing that contributes to the success of children in the future are non-cognitive skills: personality characteristics formed from the first years of life . Research studies have also shown that the quality of life, the care and love of the family, especially the care and love of parents, from childhood are the foundation for shaping children’s personality in the future. In the process of growing up, children need to be trained to acquire endurance, mental strength, inquisitive learning, and tenacity to pursue their dreams.

Therefore, parents should become close friends who accompany their children in all circumstances to timely understand the children’s thoughts, emotions and expectations, and they themselves should set good examples for their children to follow. If children stumble or fail, encourage them to learn to accept, not give up, and keep going to achieve their own goals and dreams. Children in general have faced many challenges in the maturation process. And every time they give in to a difficulty, their self-confidence and resilience decreases greatly. If parents do not encourage, help and accompany them in a timely manner, children will isolate themselves and keep too much for themselves.

Do not put too many expectations on your children because by doing so, you will put a lot of pressure on them. Don’t take your friends’ academic achievements to compare with your children’s, and don’t take children’s test scores for fun and bragging achievements. Let’s give your children a peaceful childhood and let them live their own lives and dreams.