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New Mom Support – Who’s Helping You?

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My story:

I remember when my daughter, Bryley, reversed day and night. She was 7 weeks old and she was up from 3pm to 7am If she put her down she would start crying so me striving to be perfect do it all mom got up and threw her across the complete evening. Needless to say, by the time 7am rolled around, I not only felt utterly exhausted, but also lonely, resentful, overwhelmed, and confused.

The strange thing is:

It never occurred to me to ask anyone for help.

Sounds familiar? If so, you’re not alone:

A lot of the moms I talk to are trying to do EVERYTHING on their own.

Are you trying to do it all?

Answer the following questions and you will find out:

  • When was the last time you asked for (and got) some real aid?
  • How many times in the last month have you yelled at your
  • head “HELP!” Hoping that somehow someone would magically listen
  • you and take control even for a while?
  • What do you do when you need support, rest or enough rest?

If your answers make it clear that you are a ‘do everything’ (or ‘do too much’) mom, you may benefit from building a support network dedicated solely to you. Your very own ‘new mom support network’ will make sure your ‘requirements’ are met and that you have the opportunity to care for yourself.

FOLLOW THESE STEPS TO CREATE YOUR ‘NEW MOMS SUPPORT NETWORK’:

1. Learn to feel good about asking for help.

Our culture does not teach us that it is beneficial for people to ask for help. Rather, we are taught to value independence and to see asking for help as a sign of weakness and inadequacy: “If you were REALLY a well-adjusted, capable parent, you could take care of everything yourself!” proclaims the voice in our heads.

Is this what you want to teach your child?

Taking the time to feel comfortable asking for help will allow you to become the calm and content mother you want to be. Answer the following questions to understand why it is difficult for her to ask for help and to feel more comfortable receiving the support she needs.

What am I afraid of asking for support?

· How will the way I see myself change if I recognize that I can’t do it alone?

· What would it take for me to get closer to others in order to satisfy my own needs?

What do I worry that others will think if I ask for help or if they know that I am receiving it?

How would I feel if I was backed by a system that allowed me to really feel better every day?

2. Change your approach:

If the negative voices list reasons why you shouldn’t ask for help, replace them with thoughts about how you will benefit from the help you receive.

You’ll:

  • Be a happier and more effective mom.
  • Feel better physically, emotionally and mentally.
  • Feel supported and connected to people you like and respect.
  • Feel less stressed and better equipped to handle the challenges that come your way.
  • Feeling less resentful and burned.
  • Teach your child to feel comfortable asking for and receiving the support they need.
  • Teach your child to value himself.

3. Take action:

Choose your top 3 needs (rest, alone time, emotional or parenting support, connection, a clean home, nutritious meals, intimacy, etc.) and choose 1-3 people who can help you meet the need. Your supports can be family, friends, groups, professionals, etc.

New mom support systems often include:

  • partner or best friend
  • doula
  • Life coach for new mom
  • Therapist
  • Friend (especially another new mom)
  • support group
  • play group
  • Childcare (so you have time to satisfy your needs for exercise, intellectual stimulation, artistic expression, socialization, etc.)
  • Cleaning service, errands or meals
  • Health/body specialist (fitness trainer, massage therapist, acupuncturist, chiropractor, nutritionist, etc.)

4. Make a commitment:

Right now, commit to:

1: Ask for help at least 1 time in the next week.

2: Have at least 1 person from your support network scheduled into your life by the end of next month so that one of your needs can be met on a weekly basis.

Copyright, Claudia Heilbrunn, Significant Self

Technology

Timeless Rules for Web Application Development

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Web applications are becoming increasingly important to modern businesses. These applications not only give companies a competitive advantage, but also provide them with the right tools to improve their operational efficiency. Innovative apps that are customized to business requirements are in demand and developers are focused on creating apps that add value to the business and its offerings.

However, these apps are complex and require the expertise of experienced developers to create. They require knowledge in various domains such as security, integrations, responsive design, and user interface design.

Always create clear specifications

The idea is to always define what you want in advance. Too many companies embark on development projects without knowing exactly what they want. A rough idea is not enough. It must have clear requirements and specifications. If your requirements aren’t clear, developers don’t know where to start and how to approach the project. Only you know your business processes best. So make sure you are clear about your requirements.

Get something out – quick

Every web application is designed to solve a business problem. Therefore, to successfully deploy your application, you will first need to identify the basic features needed to solve the problem and develop and deploy them first. You don’t need to build everything before you ‘go live’. Building a minimum viable product is the key to the success of all applications. The minimal features also allow you to have a clear idea of ​​​​the cost of the entire project. You can then factor in the remaining features to suit your budget.

Use the right tools

If developers aren’t equipped with the right tools, it’s a lost cause. They cannot develop modern and innovative applications with outdated tools at their disposal. Think of all the advanced tools that could help reduce development time and launch applications sooner. Using the right tools is the most important rule.

long term plan

When developing an app for your business, always think long term. If you’re solving a problem, make sure you’re not just solving ‘immediate problems’. The solution must have a long-term purpose. The technology used and the strategy should be future-proof and should not be phased out after a few years.

template or frame

Using templates and frameworks ensures that your app is ready soon and can be launched immediately. Building from scratch is sometimes a long process. A template could help you launch sooner. Save a lot of money too! Well, a framework provides developers with a means for rapid development.

Well, always make sure that the new web application and the technology you use to create it are compatible with all the other technology systems in your company. This ensures that the application works seamlessly with existing systems and provides your business with long-term benefits. Follow these timeless rules and you will have a recipe for success in your business!