52 free things to do with your partner on a date night
One of the things that works to keep relationships alive is spending quality time with others. In this age of information, it is increasingly difficult to dedicate the time necessary to nurture our relationships. With long hours of work, helping the kids with their homework, transporting them to extracurricular activities, making dinner, cleaning, and following the bedtime routine, what time is left?
Unless you organize your relationship time, other less important things will clump together and take away what little time you have. Choose a night that is a “date night” with your partner and turn your creativity into a game. Try to see how many things you can do without spending money.
To begin, I have presented some suggestions to help you during the next year. What follows are 52 ideas on how to spend creative time together without spending money. Feel free to add or modify any of the items on the list to suit your particular relationship and circumstances.
WINTER
1. Drive to see the Christmas decorations.
2. Play cards, maybe strip poker.
3. Watch a movie together.
4. Get out there and have a snowball fight.
5. Paint yourself with your fingers and create your own body art as a canvas.
6. Go sledding.
7. Go ice skating.
8. Exercise or exercise together.
9. Organize your own improv show.
10. Sing to each other.
11. Review or create a photo album or scrapbook of your memories together.
12. Play a board game, maybe chess, Scrabble, or Twister.
13. Go to a bookstore, have coffee and read for hours.
SPRING
14. Work together on a remodeling project.
15. Plan and complete a garden work project together.
16. Do spring cleaning together — room by room. When you’re done, reward yourself by making love in the room you cleaned.
17. Put on old clothes and fight the mud after a pouring rain.
18. Give each other a massage.
19. Play catch: soccer, baseball, softball, or Frisbee.
20. Go to a car dealership and test drive your dream car.
21. Shoot basketball together.
22. Dance together.
23. Shower together and wash each other — everywhere.
24. Take a free adult education class together.
25. Go to a mall and have a contest to see which of you can get the most free samples.
26. Go skating or riding your bike.
SUMMER
27. Build a fire and roast marshmallows.
28. Go swimming or knuckle bathing.
29. Give each other manicures or pedicures.
30. Go to a crowded place to people-watch.
31. Go to a free outdoor event, maybe a concert.
32. Lie down on a blanket outside and watch the clouds or stars.
33. Go on a picnic.
34. See a fireworks display.
35. Be creative and participate in sexual role plays. Be anyone that you would like to be at night and that is also exciting for your partner.
36. Sit by the water somewhere.
37. Do a prolonged striptease on each other.
38. Fight with water balloons.
39. Sit outside and read poetry to each other.
AUTUMN
40. Go for a walk together.
41. Go window shopping.
42. Incorporate food into your lovemaking — chocolate syrup, whipped cream, fondue, strawberries — whatever you and your partner enjoy.
43. Call or write someone you haven’t had contact with in a while.
44. Cook something together.
45. Spend an evening talking to each other. Talk about things you’ve done, plans for the future, important people in your life, or current events.
46. Take a bubble bath together.
47. Go to a movie or museum for free.
48. Take a walk and discover the potential of old houses and their properties.
49. Together create an imaginary story, either orally or in writing.
50. Take turns being each other’s genie in a bottle fulfilling all your partner’s wishes and fantasies.
51. Play with the fallen leaves.
52. Create an exciting scavenger hunt that ends in your bed.
Now you have 52 suggestions of things to do with your partner for each week of the year divided by season. You certainly don’t have to follow my suggestions. Feel free to add your own or repeat your favorites as many times as you like.
The main point is not to see how kinky you can get. The idea is to keep your relationship alive by making time together a priority. It is important that you find things to do as a couple that you both can enjoy. If you have very different interests, you can enter this one in the spirit of taking turns and each happily agrees to participate in the activity chosen by their turn that week.
As long as you are in the habit of making your relationship a priority and taking time each week to rejuvenate the feelings that attracted you in the first place, then you have a good chance of staying together for the long haul.
Please don’t let insidious boredom enter your relationship through the back door. This is what happens frequently when we are busy putting other things ahead of our time for each other. You know what I mean: work, children, our friend in crisis, etc. There will always be a competing interest for the time you have reserved for each other.
Aside from natural disasters, death threats, or major crises, don’t allow your time together to be invaded by outside forces. Make sure you create opportunities for you to do things together without outside influences. With over 50% of current marriages ending in divorce, make this small investment in the longevity of your relationship. You have nothing to lose and much to win. What’s stopping you? Start today.