Can an abusive mother make a man feel comfortable being treated badly by women?
If a man thought about how his interactions with women have been over the years, he might come into contact with a series of memories that he would rather forget forever. This does not mean that every moment you have shared with a woman has been unpleasant.
No, what it means is that many of the moments you have shared with a woman will not have been very uplifting. In other words, there will be more negative experiences than positive ones.
An area
As far as his love life goes, assuming he’s straight, he may have been with several women who treated him very badly. They may have been abusive both verbally and physically.
If he hadn’t been with physically abusive women, but verbally abusive women, this would still have caused him suffering. Being with such a woman may very well have taken his life and left him feeling like an empty vessel.
Hidden
However, even though being with such a woman would have undermined him a lot, it doesn’t mean that he talked to anyone about what was going on. This could be because he had no one in his life or it could be because he felt too embarrassed to open up to anyone.
But, even if she didn’t have anyone around, it doesn’t mean that this was the real reason she didn’t seek support. As with the second reason, he might have been too embarrassed to tell anyone.
Two factors
What may have played a role here is the conditioning that a man is supposed to be strong at all times and not be vulnerable. Therefore, if he had opened up, he might have believed that he would be seen as weak and even ostracized.
In addition, men are often seen as aggressors and women as victims, which can prevent a man from receiving the support he needs. Instead of receiving support and compassion, what is happening can be dismissed and you can end up being criticized.
Other zone
If you haven’t been in a relationship, you may still have had problems at work. Perhaps you have had at least one female manager who has treated you poorly and made your job much more difficult than necessary.
On the other hand, you may have worked for several female managers who are like this. But, if you haven’t, you may have had several partners who were.
Right now
In addition to what happened in the past, you may have a job right now where the same scenario is unfolding. He may have a boss or there may be some unpleasant female colleagues, but the result will be the same.
Right now, you could be at the stage where you are no longer willing to continue living this way and want your life to change. Then he will have been knocked down but he will still be in the ring.
A closer look
If you’ve generally tolerated what has happened and have found it difficult to stand your ground, it likely shows that you have a weak connection to your masculine appearance. This part of him would give her the strength and courage she needs to protect herself.
In addition, a large part of him may believe that he deserves to be treated badly, hence he has endured this type of behavior. What this can show is that you do not have a good connection to your feminine aspect, as this part would provide you with the self-esteem and self-love that would allow you to treat yourself with respect and feel uncomfortable being treated. seriously.
Deepening
With this in mind, you could show that you had an abusive mother and that your father was not emotionally or physically available. This would have meant that his mother was unable to provide him with the love, affection, and care he needed to develop a strong sense of himself.
His father, on the other hand, would not have given him the support and guidance he needed in order to become a strong and capable man. In their own way, his two caretakers would have played a role.
An interior model
How his mother behaved during this time, along with the other women around him, would have defined how he would perceive all women. Also, the way his mother treated him would have greatly influenced the way he expected other women to treat him.
Another part of how these expectations were created is how her mother treated her father and other men. Being a man and identifying with his father, his value would have been influenced in part by the value his father seemed to have.
Conscience
What this illustrates is that not only is it important for a parent to treat their child with love and care, but they should also treat their partner in the same way. If one part is missing, the other part will not be as effective as it could be.
So if a man can relate to this and is ready to heal his internal wounds, he may need to seek external support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.