I’m sure there have been times when you’ve been walking up to someone and have felt their eyes rapidly scanning up and down. It’s disconcerting, isn’t it? Are they checking your clothes, your sense of dress, your size? what’s going on? And if you thought you were getting into a nice relaxed atmosphere, perhaps meeting a friend, it becomes an even more disappointing scenario. What’s going on! Why are they doing this!

– Superficial judgments and evaluations they happen all the time though. We have certainly expressed a ‘what were they thinking!’ on occasions when we’ve seen someone wearing outrageous garb or struggling to hide a funny one, ‘they thought it was a fancy dress!’ sometimes!

And yet, don’t we love to see someone who has their own distinctive style wearing it with panache? Scandalous touches often make someone an unforgettable center of attention. And we can even search for that rare and unusual look ourselves on occasions, drag markets and charity shops for a special and unique piece of jewelry or an accessory that gives our look an exciting touch. We may want to be different, stylish, original, and yet do we sometimes experience negativity from others when we try?

Are they jealous, do they want to be the fashion guru, the one with a quirky twist in our social group? Certainly giving someone who is trying to be different a withering look can make them, especially if they are a little nervous, come back on the line and potentially weaken their confidence to try again.

– And we? Are there times when we feel intimidated as a result of questioning or judging someone else’s status? Do we find ourselves feeling that someone better educated, more handsome, slimmer, older or richer is automatically a superior, more important person, someone to be wowed? Or that someone who is perceived as less attractive or of lower status has less right to be respected or considered? Sometimes bias can be an almost unconscious response, but it can affect how we behave, how comfortable and comfortable we are in the company of others.

– Find out how someone makes a living It’s a pretty standard opening question when you first meet them, however the answer can lead to quick judgments. Whether they work or not, have a part-time or full-time job and whatever, it can result in us being impressed or putting ourselves down, all based on the short answer to that question. And yet many factors influence a person’s job choice, from their educational opportunities to the support they receive to establish a career. Then there are those who thrive on stress and challenges, while others prefer an easier life. Every function has its place in a prosperous society. Who are we to judge someone’s choice?

– Similarly, finding our voice can be a difficult question.Especially if we are new to a group or maybe we have never spoken before and we fear that other members will judge as they seem to be very confident. All it takes is a barely suppressed laugh, a giggle, or a faint “Are you serious?” To make sure we return to our corner, tail between our legs, not daring to speak again. However, it is not Weird that, several minutes later, someone else says exactly what we were trying to say and then gets loud applause.

– Or those moments in which we have invested a lot of effort in something important. It can be difficult when people unaware of the background to our story dismiss our success as fluke, trivial, or say it happened because of someone else. If you feel compelled to explain, justify or protest, just pause and ask why you should let yourself be pressured like this.

Do you really owe these people an explanation? Does your judgment make a difference in your life? On reflection, do you really care so much what they think? No no no! Breathe, let it go, and smile to yourself about what you’ve done, the efforts you’ve made, the lessons you’ve learned throughout this journey. And smile too for what they haven’t been doing while working to improve yourself.

– Critical people They seem to feel that confidence comes from running over others, belittling their efforts, and generally using piles of defeated bodies as stepping stones on which they intend to climb. They can appear as knowledgeable, strong, energetic, confident, motivated, and motivated characters.

But little by little, others begin to see through his superficial appearance, realizing how unnecessary and unpleasant it is to share the same orbit as those who continually mistreat other people, even when it is simply raising an eyebrow or giving a sigh. disbelief.

There is no joy in being surrounded by people who are always on the lookout for the negative aspects of others, who judge quickly and who choose to form inflexible opinions, thus seeing flaws and imperfections in any situation. Most of us don’t care and are even a little relieved if a keynote speaker seems human and occasionally stumbles across a few words, we are tolerant if a new staff member makes a small mistake in a restaurant. We don’t need to rant, complain, or make loud demands.

Instead of finding fault and reason to criticize, it becomes a much more pleasant and positive experience when we encourage, appreciate the good, celebrate the successes of others, and offer ways to lift each other up. It is much more satisfying and less stressful to enjoy finding the positives rather than the negatives.