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Decode the flirting signals that women use: do you know the validation and approval technique?

Decoding the flirting signals that women use is an important skill that we must develop. This will allow us to capitalize on a woman’s reaction and find out if she is attracted to us.

One type of flirting signal that women use to show that they are attracted to a man is what is called the validation and approval.

Imagine this –

You’re dating Kobe Bryant one afternoon. Just two guys shooting hoops. So you decide to play best of 5. You beat Kobe 4 to 1. Kobe is flabbergasted! He looks at you and says, “Man, never tell my coach about this. I might just lose my job.” Flattering, huh?

Now what about this situation?

You’re shooting hoops with your 10-year-old younger brother and you beat him 10-0. Or 20-0. You completely knocked him down with your basketball skills. How you feel?

In the first example, you were playing Kobe Bryant, a living basketball legend. Getting him to acknowledge that you are good at basketball makes you feel incredibly good because you think so highly of him. Kobe Bryant thinks you are better than him! How cool is that?

Compare that to the second situation where you hit your little brother. In that setting, he did not feel any noticeable feelings of accomplishment because he does not consider his brother to be of high social value. So, as you can see, your perception of your social worth makes all the difference.

The same principle at work between men and women. If the man is considered to have high social value, then the woman will unconsciously seek his validation and approval. Men who recognize this will be able to take advantage of validation and technical approval to make a woman fall in love with him even more.

So how exactly does it work when it comes to attracting women? There are two things you must do:

1. Avoid seeking validation and approval from the woman.

At least not during the first few interactions. Remember that at the beginning of the relationship, you want to be perceived as high value. It is their approval that should be sought and not the other way around. In this relationship, you are Kobe Bryant and she is the equivalent of your younger brother.

2. Pay attention to the times when the woman seeks your validation and approval..

If you recognize the signs when a woman seeks your approval, then you can either validate her to cheer her up or retain your validation to tease her, all depending on how your relationship progresses.

Here are some examples of what women will do when they try to seek your validation and approval:

  • She asks you a question with the main goal of seeking compliments. For example, “I really want to apply for an internship at this major company. But they only accept 10 people and I don’t know if I can do it. What do you think?”
  • She asks your permission to do something for which she does not need your permission to get your attention. For example, “Do you think I should go buy the movie tickets now or later?”

If you see these examples or other examples of a woman seeking validation and approval, then you are 99% sure that she is perceived as having high social value. If you are perceived as high-value, your chances of attracting her sexually become easier and more likely.