A few days ago, I came across an article on the Citizen Renegade blog about the effect of obesity on relationships. I am not going to link to the article itself, because while I agree with the general premise of the article, I do not endorse the obscene images the author used to illustrate his point. Those brave enough to visit the blog may be interested in what is there, but rest assured, most articles are not safe for work.
The premise is that high obesity rates are the sole factor responsible for the rise of pickup artists and various commercial companies preying on men who aspire to be like them. With 60% of women being overweight or obese, the number of attractive women available has decreased to the point where there are 2.5 men for every normal-weight woman, and thus a large number of men are left out of the box. play. . “But I think the article misses a key premise that makes dating by weight more complicated than simply stating that all men chase a limited number of women.
First, I must point out that the author ignores that obesity rates increase with age. If we assume that the bars and clubs usually frequented by the collection community tend to be populated by people between the ages of 18 and 29, the number of obese people in bars and clubs will be only half the number of obese people in a sample size. similar from 45. – to 64 years. (Source: Gallup.) It appears that obesity, although present in about a fifth of young people, tends to become a concern for most overweight people in the future. Someone is more likely to gain weight after meeting someone than before.
Also, the author only claims that the problem with obesity is that overweight women are less visually attractive to men. While that is true, I find it hard to fully believe, simply from experience, that women are turned on by both a fat and a fit man. They may settle for fat men simply because they are too afraid to approach thin men or because they believe in some “Rules” that do not allow them to approach men, but just as Renegade’s blog states that men deep down want to marry thin women . I bet women deep down want to marry men of normal weight. However, is it possible that both the attraction of women and men to normal weight people is due to different reasons? If we adhere to the pickup artists’ assumption that women are more motivated by character than appearance, then perhaps there is something else going on here that he missed.
The problem that was lost is that being overweight is a reflection of the character of the person. It is true that the jury is still out on whether there is a genetic component to obesity, but the magnitude of the problem has led to many effective treatments for the disease. The most obvious, simply eating less, is an option for everyone. If we give the benefit of the doubt and make the unproven assumption that obesity is a genetic problem rather than a willpower problem, then there are medications available to reduce appetite. As a last resort, gastric bypass surgery, while dangerous, almost always results in profound weight loss.
Nothing is more attractive to me than someone who decides to act on something and is dedicated to achieving their goals, and when I see an obese person, I find myself rejected not because of the ugliness, but because of that person’s lack of ambition. recognize your problems and take steps to correct them. Some might say that since I have a BMI of 21 and a body fat of 11%, I have no right to criticize others who are not “lucky” enough to be the correct weight, because losing weight is difficult.
objective life in itself it is difficult. I rush go to the gym almost every day, and the first thirty minutes are painful due to lack of energy. But I go anyway. I go to parties where there are brownies and chocolate cakes that I really want, but don’t eat. I don’t drink alcohol because it’s hundreds of calories from sugar. I love pizza so much that I could walk down to Papa John’s and have lunch there every day, but I limit myself to once a week. Nothing goes better with that pizza than a Coke, but instead I buy a calorie-free Sierra Mist diet. Making healthy veggie dinners takes up all your free time in the afternoons, but it’s what you have to do to live long. Expanding into other areas of life, I loathe how morale and working conditions in my company have plummeted, and my job sucks. But I still get up every day and spend nine hours working as a slave because that’s what one must do to live a decent life without being a burden to other people. The hard truth is that you spend 90% of your life doing things you don’t want to do, so you can spend 10% doing the things you want to do.
My point of view in the hundreds of articles written for this blog is shaped by my experiences of so many people who have been “carried away” by losing the urge to make money, experience new things, and stay in shape. While it is difficult to be sure of the effect obesity has had on the dating and relationship “game,” I know that personally, my bar for marriage is extremely high for the simple reason that the person I marry It could “get carried away” a few years later. And yes, the general decline in politeness, increased self-centeredness, and increased laziness-inducing technology make this possibility more likely now than it was in the previous generation.
In short, people who complain about obesity often criticize obese people for being ugly, but that is the wrong reason for criticism, and there are some obese people who are taking steps to improve their lives and who should be exempt. of that review. While losing weight may not be easy, certainly everyone can take some small steps toward fitness, and a person who doesn’t care about their health is extremely unattractive to both short-term and long-term relationships.
